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good for you Shocked. Glad you didn't become the OM to some while starting to date. Glad you won the divorce since she didn't deserve squat. Glad you have moved on. Now go win the appeal

Great update, so glad to hear it! Have you and the kids been to see a counsellor to help you deal with everything? Best wishes!

Nice one shocked really pleased for you.

Also thanks for the update as it shows others that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Hi Hobbes,

I went to counseling the first 3 months after dday. My oldest went to counseling for awhile and my youngest only 2 appointments. They really seem to be ok. I think the issue will be years down the road--unseen impacts from the divorce. My youngest mentions periodically he wishes we were still together so I know he's still processing (and he's the more sensitive one for sure).

The one thing I made sure is I have never introduced the new gf. I've kept my time separated between her and my kids so their routines are still normal.

At some point in the near future I will probably gradually introduce her but I've just seen no need to date.

I'm happy to offer more insight on what worked/didnt' work through my process to anyone that wants help. Feel free to reach out. I feel things couldn't have worked out better for me--very lucky considering others' situations. But there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel and truly take one day at a time and things will turn out for the better.

Did your ex and OM become a thing?

I have no idea. I really stopped caring around month 5 or so after dday. I'm assuming no since he was married and has a family and certainly my kids have never mentioned him. Pretty sure it was just a fling.

My one piece of advice that others I believe told me as well (hard to comprehend when you're fresh in the middle of the issues) but once you stop tracking or caring about the current or soon to be ex wife life is much better.

Did she ever once apologize for cheating ?

C

Did she successfully complete her degree? Get a job?

SHOCKED! I was wondering how you were doing!

I'm not surprised how things turned out for you in the end. Yours was a similar story and path as mine. Give yourself a lot of credit for being in a better place and situation. It all happened because you demanded it of yourself.

In my situation, OM threw my WW under the bus. They are both Ex's now. Once the A gets exposed it just isn't fun anymore.

Does your STBXW know you have a GF? Has she flipped out on you like a jealous hypocrit?

Thanks for the reply! Best wishes!:)

No she never apologized for cheating. She's still in school I imagine for several more years. She's working a $10/hr job at the university. My maintenance goes down next year according to the decree she's supposed to graduate and then I pay less maintenance. I'm sure she won't graduate and will argue I should continue to pay her the same amount.

Interestingly her boss is living in the basement apparently he needed a place to stay for awhile. Who knows what's going on there but my kids like him since he's an IT geek and apparently enjoys video games.

So sounds like she's living the charmed student life at 40. So long as my kids are doing ok it doesn't bother me.

As far as her knowing if I have a gf I don't believe she knows, I've never told her. She probably doesn't care. She's a soulless whore

As far as her knowing if I have a gf I don't believe she knows, I've never told her. She probably doesn't care. She's a soulless whore

Oh, she'll care once she gets word that you are in a relationship. She'll be jealous, not of your new SO but the fact that your life is going just fine without her, even better than before and it is YOU that is getting that new beginning that she thought she was going to get.

Just do your best to keep things on the down low until the D is final.

Shocked

She feels entitled. Keep your attorney and let him deal with her nonsense and need for your $$$.

Remind her those $$$ are for your kids.

Maybe someday she will grow up.

Do you still have contact with your Ex inlaws and did you finally sell the house?

HM

Yeah hoping the appeal ends well for me. Pretty much counting on it since I cannot figure what the judge would have done incorrectly per the law.

Anyway, I don't speak with the ex-in laws anymore but I'm sure I will see them periodically. She did end up refinancing the house recently. I'm sure her dad co-signed since there's no way she qualified.

This entitlement, what a word, is a mind fuck. In the divorce section there is exBW whose exWH showed after midnight and wanted to talk. She was curious. Going through garage he noticed his motorcycle was gone. He was miffed but she pointed out that he left 4 years ago.

After a surreal conversation about her having flirted with OM when they were married, he told her loved her, kissed her on the forehead and left. So the entitled can cheat and divorce and remain entitled.

It's ironic that your ex turned the university into the bridge to finding herself but the actual education became a mere pretext.