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mamajen00 ( Member #43810) posted at 5:21 AM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014

I wish I had seen this a few months ago when I first stumbled onto this site. Great information!!

BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA

posts: 58   ·   registered: Jun. 20th, 2014
id 6872430
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littleflower ( Member #42673) posted at 8:15 PM on Saturday, July 26th, 2014

Bump

DD 13/1/14
Him WH
OW - what a cow
3 kids under 4

posts: 101   ·   registered: Mar. 5th, 2014
id 6886863
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Hurtingnnc ( Member #44284) posted at 4:56 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014

I am glad I found this. It made me feel a lot better

Me: BGF 45
Him: WBF 48
I have moved on.

posts: 411   ·   registered: Jul. 29th, 2014
id 6889680
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Jpapageorge ( Member #31800) posted at 4:11 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014

Bump.

Things can get a little slow around here on the weekends but there is always someone here to help.

For those of you who just found us, welcome to the best site you never wanted to join. You are safe here and will find others who have been where you are.

It does get better.

Jp

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

posts: 2016   ·   registered: Apr. 8th, 2011   ·   location: California
id 6895746
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brkn_heartd ( Member #30396) posted at 1:17 AM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014

bump

Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

posts: 2093   ·   registered: Dec. 14th, 2010   ·   location: Northwesten US
id 6897703
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jjct ( Member #17484) posted at 1:57 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014

BUMP!

posts: 7269   ·   registered: Dec. 24th, 2007   ·   location: texas
id 6903662
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Edie ( Member #26133) posted at 8:28 AM on Friday, August 22nd, 2014

Bump

Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 kids 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) R'd.

posts: 6384   ·   registered: Nov. 9th, 2009   ·   location: Europe
id 6919489
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Sadandscared ( New Member #44629) posted at 11:00 PM on Sunday, August 24th, 2014

We were lying on the bed chatting and he answered his phone. I wasn't suspicious. I've never been suspicious.

He had a short call , I remember him saying that he didn't know what his plans were and he'd call later. I asked ' who's that'?

He said his friend and they were arranging golf

I said - but that was a woman's voice - was it his GF? ( they are both our friends)

He said no- it was his friend/

I didn't think anymore

I didn't even get a ripple of suspicion .

He got up and left the bedroom

5 minutes later he's back and looking bad.

I know he's done something wrong - I ask him what he's done ( I don't think it's an affair)

He says

I'm so sorry . You were right. It was a woman. I've been having an affair . I don't want to loose you. I'm so sorry.

What are you going to do. Don't leave me. I'll never see her again. I don't want to hurt you. I'm sorry. It's my fault. I'm in the wrong.I want to be with you. I don't like myself. I don't feel good about this.

We went for a long walk. I said he must finish it stat. I said we can try and work it out.

He says trust me . I will never do this again. I ask him why - he says because I can't hurt you again

I don't want to be strong and tell him what to do. I just want him to do it .

I don't want to be posting this here but what can I do with the pain?

I need time to think - scared if I go away this week as planned I'm just going to be obsessing about him. He should be at work but that's when he's been seeing her - instead if going to work he stays at hers if pops round for a couple of hours every so often.

Can I go away? If I don't it'll be difficult to make excuses to family

Oh and I had an operation 10 days ago and still recuperating so not only emotional shock but body shock too.

posts: 12   ·   registered: Aug. 24th, 2014   ·   location: London
id 6922282
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jjct ( Member #17484) posted at 4:58 PM on Wednesday, August 27th, 2014

Bump

posts: 7269   ·   registered: Dec. 24th, 2007   ·   location: texas
id 6925633
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Jpapageorge ( Member #31800) posted at 11:36 PM on Friday, September 5th, 2014

Bump.

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

posts: 2016   ·   registered: Apr. 8th, 2011   ·   location: California
id 6936060
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UpInTheAirNow ( Member #37777) posted at 8:46 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6938983
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yearsofpain25 ( Member #42012) posted at 9:30 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014

bump

"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

posts: 4517   ·   registered: Jan. 11th, 2014   ·   location: Northeast US
id 6939055
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UpInTheAirNow ( Member #37777) posted at 2:42 AM on Wednesday, September 10th, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6940676
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UpInTheAirNow ( Member #37777) posted at 2:42 AM on Wednesday, September 10th, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6940677
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UpInTheAirNow ( Member #37777) posted at 11:42 PM on Wednesday, September 10th, 2014

Bump.

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6941720
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UpInTheAirNow ( Member #37777) posted at 6:37 PM on Thursday, September 11th, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6942591
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UpInTheAirNow ( Member #37777) posted at 3:18 PM on Monday, September 22nd, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6954390
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jjct ( Member #17484) posted at 3:36 PM on Friday, September 26th, 2014

BUMP

posts: 7269   ·   registered: Dec. 24th, 2007   ·   location: texas
id 6959667
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UpInTheAirNow ( Member #37777) posted at 11:18 PM on Monday, October 6th, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6969493
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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 11:59 PM on Monday, October 6th, 2014

All of the threads with the target icon have been added to the Healing Library

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

posts: 210060   ·   registered: May. 31st, 2002
id 6969534
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