Texas State Fair G2G - 10/17-10/19!! (Pics starting Page 14)
HURRY! HURRY! HURRY!
STEP RIGHT UP, GET YER TICKETS!!!!
COME ONE, COME ALL! SIGN UP NOW! HURRY! WHILE TICKETS LAST!
HT & woes
knights & knightsbff
inconnu & "we"
[This message edited by jjct at 6:42 PM, October 15th (Wednesday)]
347 comments posted: Thursday, May 1st, 2014
Let's work on a safety thread
Thanks to Moo for finding this, and Nature_Girl for originally posting.
Anything you guys want to do with this info is great. Add ideas, etc.
Maybe organize into categories?
After we bat this around for awhile and polish it up - it will hopefully make a nice 'stickie' addition here.
This is what I got so far. Have at it gang!
organized by categories?
- Physical/personal incl kids
- Financial! bank accts, etc.
- work place...???? any other???
atty said I couldn't change locks so I added locks he didn't have keys to
WHEN I LEAVE, I SHOULD HAVE:
___Identification for myself
___Social Security Cards
___Checkbook, ATM card
___Driver's License & Registration
___Bank books, Insurance papers
___Welfare identification, work permits, Green Card
___Lease/rental agreement, house deed, mortgage payment book
___Children's Birth certificates
___School & vaccination record
___Small saleable objects
___Children's favorite toys and/or blankets
___MY birth certificate
___Keys to house, car, office
___Medical records for all family members
___Items of special sentimental value
A - If I decide to leave, I will ___________. (Practice how to get out safely. What doors, windows, elevators, stairwells or fire escapes would you use?)
B - I can keep my money and car keys ready and put them __________ (location).
C - I can tell _______ about the violence and request they call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my home.
D - I can teach my children how to use the telephone to contact the police and the fire department.
E - I will use _____ as my code for my children or my friends so they can call for help.
F - If I have to leave my home, I will go ___________. (Decide this even if you don't think there will be a next time.) If I cannot go to this location, then I can go to _______.
G - I can also teach some of these strategies to some/all of my children.
H - When I expect we are going to have an argument, I will try to move to a space that is lowest risk, such as _____________________. (Try to avoid arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen, near weapons or in rooms without access to an outside door)
I - I will use my judgment and intuition. If the situation is very serious, I can give my partner what he/she wants to calm him/her down. I have to protect myself until I/we are out of danger.
SAFETY WHEN PREPARING TO LEAVE
Abuse victims frequently leave the residence they share with the abusive partner. Leaving must be done with a careful plan in order to increase safety. Abusers often strike back when they believe their victim is leaving the relationship.
I can use some or all of the following safety strategies:
A - I will leave money and an extra set of keys with ___________ so that I can leave quickly.
B - I will keep copies of important documents or keys at _______________.
C - I will open a savings account by __________________ to increase my independence.
D - Other things I can do to increase my independence include: ______________________.
E - I can call the domestic violence hot line number: _____________________.
G - I can keep change for phone calls on me at all times. I understand that if I u se my telephone credit card, the following month the telephone bill will tell my partner those numbers that I called after I left. To keep my telephone communications confidential, I must either use coins or I might ask a friend to permit me to use their telephone card for a limited time when I first leave. I could also purchase prepaid calling cards.
H - I will check with ________ and __________ to see if they would be able to let me stay with them or lend me some money.
I - I can leave extra clothes with _____________________.
J - I will sit down and review my safety plan every __________________ in order to plan the safest way to leave the residence. ___________________ (DV Advocate or friend) has agreed to help me review this plan.
K - I will rehearse my escape plan and, as appropriate, practice it with my children.
L - Be aware that cellular phones can contain GPS tracking devices. If possible, plan to
get a new phone and new service plan when you leave, and leave your original
M - Know that your computer activity can be monitored or checked without your
knowledge. It is not possible to delete or clear all of the “footprints" from your
computer or online activities. If you are being monitored, it may be dangerous to
change your computer behaviors such as suddenly deleting your entire Internet history
if that is not your regular habit.
N -• If you think you may be monitored on your home computer, be careful how you use
your computer since an abuser might become suspicious. You may want to keep using
the monitored computer for non-personal activities, like looking up the weather or
reading the news. Use a safer computer to research an escape plan, look for new jobs or apartments, bus tickets, or ask for help.
O - Consider opening a free email account that your abuser doesn’t know about. Only
check it from public or otherwise safe computers (libraries, schools, a friend’s home).
I like that squirreling away small amounts of money & converting them into cards.
SAFETY PLANNING IN MY OWN RESIDENCE:
A - I can change the locks on my doors & windows as soon as possible. (FYI, changing your locks is not as expensive as completely putting in new locks. I was pleasantly surprised at this!)
B - I can replace wooden doors & windows as soon as possible.
C - I can install security systems including additional locks, window bars, poles to wedge against doors, an electronic system, etc.
D - I can purchase rope ladders to be used for escape from second floor windows.
E - I can install smoke detectors and purchase fire extinguishers for each floor in my house/apartment.
F - I can install an outside lighting system that lights up when a person is coming close to my house.
G - I will teach my children how to use the telephone to make a call to me or ___________ and ______________ (friend or minister or DV Advocate). I can teach them how to make a collect telephone call.
H - I will tell people who take care of my children which people have permission to pick up my children and that my partner is not permitted to do so. The people I will inform include:
Day care staff:_____________
Sunday School teacher:_____________
I - I can inform __________(neighbors), _________________(Pastor), ______________(friends) that my partner no longer resides with me, and they should call the police if he/she is observed near my residence.
62 comments posted: Thursday, October 18th, 2012