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Maia's Withdrawal Survival Guide (repost for newbies)

Topic is Sleeping.
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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 5:39 PM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2011

Bump for lostpainful

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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Sandcrab ( member #10067) posted at 8:49 PM on Wednesday, September 7th, 2011

Don't want this to get lost....

I ♥ LostJim

Adopt a chihuahua in your area
http://adopt-a-chihuahua.adoptapet.com/

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Sandcrab ( member #10067) posted at 6:31 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2011

I ♥ LostJim

Adopt a chihuahua in your area
http://adopt-a-chihuahua.adoptapet.com/

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wincings_sparkle ( member #27129) posted at 5:49 PM on Friday, January 13th, 2012

Bumping before it's lost.

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

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NewWorldMan ( member #33607) posted at 11:49 PM on Sunday, January 15th, 2012

Thank you for posting this and to those who bumped it up. I'd have never seen it.

Me: FWS 46

Divorced

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 7:53 PM on Tuesday, January 17th, 2012

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 12:02 AM on Thursday, January 26th, 2012

Here's another bump.

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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wincings_sparkle ( member #27129) posted at 12:30 AM on Tuesday, February 21st, 2012

Bump, Hope this helps you.

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

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Betrayed~H ( member #34383) posted at 2:41 AM on Tuesday, February 28th, 2012

Bump

Me - 41, BH (Madhatter as well)
Her - 39, WW
Together 18 years, M for 11
Dday - 05/01/11
DS - 9 yo
DD - 5 yo
TT discovered 12/26, it got ugly
Separated 12/26

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wincings_sparkle ( member #27129) posted at 12:55 AM on Sunday, March 4th, 2012

For Frostian

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:46 AM on Saturday, March 10th, 2012

bump for rcant

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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rollercoaster80 ( member #23412) posted at 3:36 PM on Saturday, March 10th, 2012

First time I've seen this post...found it helpful even as a BS.....wise advice to unstick yourself from an unhealthy cycle. I have a son struggling with addiction....this would be great advice to him....sadly he must follow his own path.Thanks Maia!

me 58 fbw
him 71 FWH/SA
married 35 years
together 31 years my whole adult life!
4 s, 1 stepd, 2 grand kids

multiple A's, 2 LTA's,multiple indescretions...before and throughout our marriage

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 12:17 PM on Monday, March 12th, 2012

rollercoaster, the path out of slavery is the same, doesnt matter what enslaves you. I will pray for your son. And for your heart.

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 3:10 AM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2012

bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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rollercoaster80 ( member #23412) posted at 4:04 AM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2012

Thanks Maia. We can use all the prayers we can get. Life is a journey not a destination....but geez sometimes the road gets so bumpy....he seems to be moving on....HOPE....always have hope

me 58 fbw
him 71 FWH/SA
married 35 years
together 31 years my whole adult life!
4 s, 1 stepd, 2 grand kids

multiple A's, 2 LTA's,multiple indescretions...before and throughout our marriage

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wincings_sparkle ( member #27129) posted at 4:57 AM on Wednesday, March 21st, 2012

Bump for justliving

"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

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justliving ( new member #35108) posted at 5:40 AM on Wednesday, March 21st, 2012

Alot here and it's sooo much. I grew up a christian and fell from GOD for the past few years. It is something that I want to rectify in my life but am scared to deal with my GOD issues... Thanks for the reposting wincings_sparkle. Thanks Maia for taking the time to share so much. I know that SI is where I need to be. Will be a frequent reader of your advice.

Me, 33 WS
Him, 33 BS
Children 13,10,5
Married 11 yrs...
D-Day February 18th, 2012.

Everyday is a New Day!

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 10:24 PM on Wednesday, May 23rd, 2012

hey justliving!

I'm on and off here depending on Life. but will make an effort to be on if someone asks ;-)

someone did.

will be praying for you. all issues usually end up being God. but it doesnt have to be that religious pie in the sky impractical-just-makes-you-guilty type of thing.

it can be really healing.

just take baby steps.

peace.

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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thegooddokta ( member #35641) posted at 1:50 PM on Thursday, May 24th, 2012

Thank you for posting for this newbie. I really, really needed to see this. Knowing that there is a withdrawal process and that the pain I am in is normal has been invaluable for me. I am at the very beginning of this process of ending A and seeing if R is possible. I need all the guidance I can get.

Me- BW 43
Him- WH 35
1stDday Dday 4-19-12
Married 9 yrs
Divorce sched for June 2013
2 kids 5 & 8

W/H-currently has a new girlfriend. We are still living in same house.

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 3:30 PM on Tuesday, May 29th, 2012

you are welcome dokta.

the choice is one you make daily, to End it. sometimes it is a choice you make minute by minute. It isnt a one time thing.

keep choosing to end it. it's only when you do that that you heal.

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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