drowninginsorrow ( member #4545) posted at 10:01 PM on Tuesday, March 18th, 2008
as mentioned just above this by DS:
Breaking the Zero Tolerance rule = losing your Profile
seriously people 
Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics
Celerygal ( member #18264) posted at 8:04 PM on Thursday, April 10th, 2008
Wow - I'd never gone in here before. Wow. Why don't some people get it? In spite of this one subject (infidelity) that we have in common, we are not all the same and we don't have the time/space here to debate those other issues. Your board is focused on this issue (again, infidelity). Thanks for standing your ground and not letting the site get all cluttered up & off-topic, Mods.
Mango ( member #6536) posted at 9:24 PM on Thursday, May 1st, 2008
One of the things I cherish most about thi site is the no politics or religion bashing. People are hurting bad enough without debating politics. Thank you DS and Co.
sickwith4kids ( member #16585) posted at 6:01 PM on Monday, June 16th, 2008
Does anyone happen to know of a christian site that helps deal with infidelity? I actually love to hear about how the Bible and scripture helped people and if that is not tolerated then I would like to find a new site that would allow it. I have found help here but I need Christ in my life. I would never bash somebody for their beliefs on here but I sure would like to be able to be open with mine. I just feel sometimes it helps to hear the positive spiritual stuff and I couldn't imagine being offended by it if it is meant to help.
me (BS)-34 Him (FWH)-35
married 11 years (together 14)
DDay 10/07/2007
trickle truth for one month
kids S-9 D-7 S-5 D-2
...because it was us baby way before them and we're still together. ~REO Speedwagon~
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 7:40 PM on Monday, June 16th, 2008
Please see this thread in the I Can Relate forum
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=158514
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
melbourne ( member #4059) posted at 4:24 AM on Sunday, September 7th, 2008
I've never read through this entire thread before but now that I have...here is my Paypal donation for another $25.00, along with a bottle of virtual wine and my sincere thanks. (Did you notice that the virtual wine bottle was virtually empty, BTW? <hic>
DoneThat ( member #23040) posted at 2:57 PM on Tuesday, April 28th, 2009
I was just looking this over. I didn't write that. ??
[This message edited by DoneThat at 8:06 AM, December 21st (Tuesday)]
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 6:30 PM on Wednesday, April 29th, 2009
]"It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.
What does this really mean to you?
I'm not sure who you're asking...but it means...
To not take revenge, instead, leave room for Gods wrath.
[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 12:31 PM, April 29th (Wednesday)]
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Clarrissa ( member #21886) posted at 9:11 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2009
First time I've read this thread and I think the mods are right. This site is not for the discussion of politics or religion. Those have always been incendiary topics. While I do believe in a higher power, call it God, Allah, or even Big Juju, how one relates to this higher power is probably one of the most personal things you can think of. While it's nice to discuss this topic with like-minded people it's not our place to shove our views and beliefs down others' throats. I believe the Bible says something to the effect that if you spread the message in a town and no one wants to listen, then go on to another place. To me this says "If they're not interested, then don't waste your time" or a sentiment to that effect. I know I mentioned the Bible and I hope this doesn't break the Zero Tolerance Rule concerning religion. It was not to spark any kind of debate. I was merely saying that one of the "Good Books" (I believe the Torah and the Koran are also "good books" with much in common) basically says you really don't have the right to proselytize especially after you were shown or told not to. Faith is a great thing. It's helped many people move past traumatic events in their lives such as infidelity and death and to me all faiths are about the same thing (religion is a different matter but I'm not going to get into that). Faith is the belief that there is a higher power that is looking out for every one of us, is interested in how our lives are going and yes, even testing us to see what we're truly made of. There is no proof of this higher power but that's the definition of faith: beliving something without a shred of proof. I think *faith* has a place here, not religion.
BH Cee64D - 50
FWW (me) - 51
All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.
BrokenBrianne ( new member #24025) posted at 12:58 PM on Monday, May 18th, 2009
Hi. I am new and this is my first post...so forgive me if this was brought up already. Does this include talking about the book..The Love Dare..and the movie Fireproof? I am actually not religious but feel these are both very helpful for me so far. I watched the movie and just started the book. The movie helped wake both me and the H up a bit. I now see what problems we were having before the infidelity and continue to have....I am hoping the book will help change that.
[This message edited by BrokenBrianne at 7:06 AM, May 18th (Monday)]
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 1:04 PM on Monday, May 18th, 2009
Does this include talking about the book..The Love Dare..and the movie Fireproof?
We only ask that religious debates are not started
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Shattrdfairytale ( new member #24049) posted at 8:13 AM on Sunday, June 28th, 2009
I just want to thank the mods immensely for keeping religion and politics out of here. This site has helped me get through the day most days and if I had to put up with being called a godless communist (godless yes communist no), I wouldn't be able to stay. So thank you so much for making this forum a place for everyone not just believers.
btw iamsorry- Awesome post!!!
BS (me) - 36
FWH - 34
DD- 11
M-11/17/01
Dday- 5/08
R - 6-25-08
catwoman999 ( member #5524) posted at 7:54 PM on Friday, October 23rd, 2009
Infidelity tests core beliefs. Religion is part of that. It should be fair ground.
After the affair and PTSD, my faith in a higher being collapsed. I realized it is important to have faith in what is real: love, integrity, and goodness that show themselves in actual human beings, however flawed.
This was a vital part of my recovery and should be tolerated here.
If you live long enough, you experience betrayal from both sides. If you learn, you steer clear. D-Day 6-16-04. We learned.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:44 PM on Saturday, October 24th, 2009
Catwoman99...
No one said religion couldn't be discussed. What was said that religion wouldn't be debated...big difference.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
catwoman999 ( member #5524) posted at 4:42 PM on Saturday, October 24th, 2009
oh, I see. thanks for the clarification.
If you live long enough, you experience betrayal from both sides. If you learn, you steer clear. D-Day 6-16-04. We learned.
where am i ( member #26064) posted at 5:03 AM on Monday, November 2nd, 2009
i thought i understood. but now i am confused. religion can be discussed, just not debated? maybe you mean mentioned and not debated? because a discussion about religion is going to be a debate in some way (politics, too)
anyway....i'm leaving them both out.
playin' it safe.
i know there's a balance, i see it when i swing past.
Lostdale ( member #28680) posted at 11:42 PM on Sunday, June 6th, 2010
I was raised Catholic but as far as I can see, religion has been the problrm with us. I don't have to tell you how many people have been killed over the centurys believing THEIR GOD WAS THE TRUE GOD. You already know. The pain that a God puts on it's people, death, desease, famin, floods, wars, ETC,ETC, now you know why I don't believe anymore,and neither should you. 
Me,58 WW,53 2DDays two son's---24+30 No one kows what it's like to be the sad man,behind blue eyes--The Who
married 31 years, some good
Pansy Moss ( member #30030) posted at 12:57 PM on Thursday, March 24th, 2011
I just read through this. It's a no brainer. I'm a religious Catholic but dang, I don't go to PTA meetings and start religious debates. I might say "yeah, we just had pizza tonight because it's Friday", but that's entirely different then "here I am once again amidst these neo-pagans..." That's silly.
I have very, strong and rigid religious beliefs. I cannot fully cut off a giant part of my cultural identity when expressing myself at times. But my beliefs are about me and my private relationship with God, not about
finding ways to bludgeon or
manipulate others.
~Pansy Moss 41 (BS)
~FWH 40 LostGuy73
wife of 19 yrs
Mom of 7 (dd 20,ds 18,ds 14,ds 11, ds 9,dd 7,ds 4)
Last D-Day 10.2.09
Separated
"LOVE is not blind; that is the last thing it is. Love is bound; and the more it is bound the less it is bl
dday420 ( member #32133) posted at 4:45 AM on Tuesday, May 17th, 2011
Can we start a new thread for prayer? This one is full:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=158514
For better or for worse
Infidelity is a choice. There is no justification.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 4:35 PM on Tuesday, May 17th, 2011
dday...
There is a current thread in on page 1 of the ICR forum.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=339319
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
