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Wife of four years, cheated with a mutual friend six months ago

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HouseOfPlane ( member #45739) posted at 3:45 PM on Sunday, December 5th, 2021

Not denying her alcoholism but isn’t it relevant that she confessed to being fully sober when she made the decisions to go full consummated adultery?

They’re usually fully sober before the first drink of the day too. It’s like making bad decisions is habit-forming. Seen too much of it in my extended family.

Sounds like, as with the vast majority of cases here, JB just saw the tip of the iceberg initially. Sigh.

[This message edited by HouseOfPlane at 3:45 PM, Sunday, December 5th]

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Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 5:00 PM on Sunday, December 5th, 2021

I assume someone threatened to tell you unless she did it first. Once the word gets out you might find who. She was hoping to control the dialogue.

One thing I see here over and over is men have very few people they can tell. A study was done several years ago and the findings were that women have many support systems and men only have their wives. You are taught from infancy to compete with each other. Your wife knows your quirks, your fears, your hopes and dreams, and your hurts. I doubt you have many men you can show that kind of vulnerability to. Your support system is gone. This place will be valuable to you because these men have been brought to their knees just like you. Pay attention to them but use what you need and leave the rest.

Get to your GP and get some temporary medications to help you sleep and for anxiety.

Also, please stay in touch. Often a bs comes here gets suggestions and disappears. All of us would like to know how you are doing. We are your virtual support system.

[This message edited by Cooley2here at 5:03 PM, Sunday, December 5th]

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Tempocontour ( member #65971) posted at 1:00 AM on Friday, January 7th, 2022

Any update? I hope you are doing ok.

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