better4me ( member #30341) posted at 5:31 PM on Monday, July 10th, 2017
MakingMyFuture on a thread about asking for what you want when dating and the rejection that may follow.
...It's ok to ask for what you want. Hopefully the people who don't want what you want will run away. The faster the better to make room for someone who is a good fit
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 9:28 PM on Friday, July 21st, 2017
Thank you Adlham for:
Shazam, motherfucker!
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 8:51 PM on Tuesday, July 25th, 2017
If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, why can't I carry all the grocery bags in one trip?
lilies21 on New Beginnings thread on reminiscing...
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
momoftana ( member #17383) posted at 5:00 PM on Monday, August 28th, 2017
Sure, I could have cleaned the kitchen last night once DS was asleep, made muffins ahead of time for breakfast, or started laundry, scrubbed the tub, dusted, etc... Instead I said to hell with it, poured a glass of wine, munched on dry Fruit Loops, and watched a movie.
Another from Lilies over in New Beginnings on a thread about "Adulting".
Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 1:53 PM on Sunday, September 3rd, 2017
Truthsetmefree beating me at my own game in off topic
Well, I hate to put a bee in your bonnet, nvt...but a little birdie told me, that will all this raining like cats and dogs, that the little rascal has has been holed up, happy as a clam, snug as a bug in a rug and drunk as a skunk. Evidently that little guy drinks like a fish. I told the little birdie that that all sounded like a bunch of horse feathers - but he said it got it straight from the horse's mouth. So might as well just hold your horses - no sense going on a wild goose chase and running around like a chicken with your head cut off - as I doubt you'll ever get him to actually pony up (maybe when pigs fly!)... and you'll probably end up having to take him to kangaroo court - or else wait until the cows come home. So sorry to put this fly in your ointment...what a fine kettle of fish this is!
BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer
FeelinLimbo ( member #59822) posted at 10:14 PM on Monday, September 11th, 2017
...this cyclical thinking will drive you insane. "We're good! "We're over!" "We're good!" It suggests that how the relationship functions determines how you feel about life. The way to combat it is by taking the focus off of your relationship being the focus of your life and instead make your relationship with you the focus of your life.
By OwningIt Now.
[This message edited by FeelinLimbo at 4:16 PM, September 11th (Monday)]
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 9:23 PM on Thursday, September 21st, 2017
You Ran, now stay Runned.
Very good advice provided by "DevotedMan" to a poster wondering if they made the right decision.
D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 8:05 PM on Friday, September 22nd, 2017
If someone crumpled a $100 bill and threw it in the trash, would it mean the bill is worthless? Or would it mean that the person who threw it away was an idiot?
Our beloved NIK analogizing (I totally just verbed "analogy"
about how the other man doesn't have magical sex powers that made a wife leave.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 8:26 AM on Sunday, September 24th, 2017
Maybe s/he felt pain. I know it'd hurt if I stuck my dick in a beehive in the middle of Brooklyn while I ran hither and yon screeching semi-coherent racial slurs but whose fault would that be.
-StillGoing
This was the response to Maisindus post about the AP's feelings.
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
Minnesota ( member #50615) posted at 12:48 PM on Wednesday, September 27th, 2017
You should write a book, "How I became all mature and shit".
Randy1133 responding to Pass's realization and declaration that he has become "all mature and shit."
[This message edited by Minnesota at 6:49 AM, September 27th (Wednesday)]
Me: BS Upper 40's
Her: XWW younger 30's
Married Sept. 2010
DDay Thanksgiving 2015
Dday2- Jan28ish, 2016 -new affair
One child (Big Mister) born in 2012
Divorced Sept. 2, 2016
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 8:31 PM on Wednesday, September 27th, 2017
Adlham listing the things her ex didn't do to atone for his wrongs.
He didn't even keep his promise that he would die without me.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:55 PM on Tuesday, October 3rd, 2017
Unsubscribe
Pass telling us the favorite response he's seen to unsolicited texts from an Ex looking for sympathy (or whatever).
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:03 AM on Thursday, October 5th, 2017
Bowtie in for a quote I shall be using quite a bit!
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree nor the turd from the asshole
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 1:27 AM on Thursday, October 5th, 2017
From Twicewounded, this little witty tidbit of wisdom:
When WS shits where they eat, it tends to get all over everyone's shoes and gets tracked all over.
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 12:39 AM on Thursday, October 12th, 2017
Sisoon smack talking in general forum... i dont know where else to memorialize this..
Wait, NtV! You have a job? a professional job?
BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 1:03 PM on Saturday, October 14th, 2017
I would be eternally grateful for the chance to find out how I'd feel.
wearerhinos explaining how he'd feel if the AP died.
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:20 AM on Tuesday, October 17th, 2017
MalibuBayBreeze, who made me snort beer on my screen:
I hope his dick rots and falls off, then he can pick it up and go fuck himself
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
IWriteForMe ( new member #60913) posted at 4:02 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2017
OMFG...this thread is hilarious!!!
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/archives.asp?tid=228482
Thanks for posting it!
And now I will do what's best for me.
D-Day Sept. 1, 2017
Justincase ( member #59189) posted at 9:52 AM on Thursday, October 26th, 2017
Dontcareanymore posting in d/s about xwh and wifetress
Aww, looks like relationships are hard work no matter who you shack up with. Might even be harder to maintain a relationship when you're both degenerates.
Watching and gathering, just in case...
Justincase ( member #59189) posted at 9:53 AM on Thursday, October 26th, 2017
Stupid double-posting-wifi-sucks phone.
[This message edited by Justincase at 3:53 AM, October 27th (Friday)]
Watching and gathering, just in case...
