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I think 1st Wife has great advice here, practical and solid and I think I would follow it. It sounds like a big step I know but believe me, men DO hurt their wives and kids. And I'm sure the reverse happens too but not as often. It really IS better to be safe than sorry so please consider seriously what 1st Wife has said, it's what I'd do.

If you are going to stay married then you need to be honest with yourself about who you are staying married to and protect yourself accordingly.

This means:

1. Use condoms every time you have sex. You may also want to get a prescription for PrEP because you are not in a monogamous relationship and he’s having sex with strangers. It will be less enjoyable for him and he will be pissed off, but the alternative is playing Russian roulette with your health each time you have sex.

2. Get a job, even if it’s part-time or a small side gig. Do not put yourself in a position where your skills are out of date and you have an ever-growing gap in your resume if you need to return to the workforce.

3. If you’re truly done with having kids, regardless of whether or not you stay married, then getting your tubes tied might be prudent. But if you have any doubt, don’t rob yourself of a choice your future self might regret.

4. Never ever fool yourself into believing that just because you’re willing to stay married to him that he will stay married to you. A man like the one you’re describing will have no scruples about abandoning you if he feels he has a better deal elsewhere.

5. And last but not least, get a post nuptial agreement. If he says he loves you and wants to stay married to you, he’ll have no problem putting his money where his mouth is.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 2:03 AM, Monday, March 23rd]

There are some people who should not be married. They don’t have the loyalty gene. It sounds like you are married to one.
Huge question…do you want to live your one precious life miserable? To me that is what every bs should ask themselves. The ws who do the work by accepting responsibility and growing up are to be appreciated. When you have a ws whose morals got flushed away, never to return, they are not good partners.
Do not do mc. You need your own therapy and a trip to a lawyer to see the forest and the trees. You need to deal with reality.