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I have several threads on these forums that go into detail about our journey.

Bottom line is, I still love her and she still loves me. We've been married for 27 years, and for 26 of those there has never been a hint of anything like this happening before. She's not a typical WW. She's not a typical person in general. I was convinced early on that she's deeply remorseful. She's been rock solid for the last year, every day, every minute.

We had issues that were partly my fault as well. While that in no way excuses infidelity, I do have some feelings of guilt for my part in the deterioration of our relationship leading up to her affair. She's given me many second chances. Now I'm giving her one. One. One second chance. There won't be a third and she knows it. I had called lawyers and set up consultations. I had real estate agents lined up to buy the house. I was on my way out the door and I meant it. She knows that and she's still making a very good case for me to stay. She's been a model for R for the entire time I've been on these forums. She hasn't slipped up, given any red flags, or backslid for almost a year now. We both want this to work.

Does that satisfy your curiosity?

Don’t let any of your days be ruined or tainted, they’re your days.

It's is wise, but it is hard.

Unless you let that person go, then you reclaim it.
On my birthday this year will be hard to accept wishes from her, since what I just found out.

No problems from others

Thanks Pogre

I guess what I struggle with (from any R story) is the idea of wanting to try again despite that level of betrayal.

Thanks Pogre

I guess what I struggle with (from any R story) is the idea of wanting to try again despite that level of betrayal.

I think is the ultimate proof of the love you truly had for your partner.

I have been betrayed by my other 2 ex girlfriends before my wife (her betrayals were all pre marriage or moving in together, but it matters nothing, it just made it all a lie, fake).

They ALWYAS come back, on their knees.
My response was always a laugh "You are dead to me, like you never existed. Save me the stink of even remember you still breathe. I deleted you from my memories, spare me your miserable voice or presence because you count for less than zero. Now fuck off"

And that broke them. And that was just. I would say it was pleasing, but frankly, I would not give a shit if I were to see their rotting corpse in front of me. That's what betrayal does to a person for me.

And yet, with this one I could not.
I guess what she has killed by cheating was really something too important for me to not give her another chance.

At the same time, she does not deserve another chance. Nobody does.
This is the BS cognitive dissonance.

It is love, wounded and dying, but it must have been true.
Hopefully you get what it means.