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"There is literally no there there. No soul. No conscience. No empathy"

I am so deeply sorry for all of us who experienced this.

Purple Rain 🟣💜 hang in there. There are amazing people in this group who deeply understand what you have experienced.

After I discovered the WH's secret second life (part of my healing is that I refuse to call him "my" anything so I call him "the WH"), people told me that he had always been "manipulative".

I am with Dee. The man I dated and married who I had a child with was (on the surface) not the man who almost cost me my life. The man I married spent a lot of time in church. He successfully served in the armed services. He presented as a man of integrity and honor. In reality he lied to me about serious things from the start. I just did not find out until later.

I think this dichotomy-- along with social (and religious) expectations others in this post have already mentioned coupled with societal minimalization of the severity of infidelity-- kept me off balance and "trapped" for way too long.
Add in that so many people gush that he is such a great guy....

It has been hard for me to leave and heal. But I am doing just that.

I wish you peace. I wish you healing. I wish you joy and a life free of infidelity.

To be clear, I can't speak to the soul part, but I did experience a shocking lack of empathy and apparent conscience. (Other posts I made are the tip of the iceberg as to what he planned and did...things so aweful as to be almost unbelievable if I hadn't lived it and didn't have pictures and screenshots.)

SheHawk thank you for such kind and comforting words. It’s so unfortunate that caring people as yourself are treated with such disregard. I’m trying so hard to accept that there are people who are just missing that true human connection.

There is just so much to heal from.