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In this crazy hot real estate market you could sell as is and get a good offer.

100%, but the WW doesn't want anyone walking through the house without a 30,000 face-lift.

My dad told me the same thing and I would be fine selling it as is but no lol

Really push yourself to have that meeting w the lawyer. I’d even go so far to ask him to put together papers to have served when you give the go ahead so there is no delay.

Then what will it take to get you to say the type of things siracha and I recommended?

There is NO expiration date for asking for what you need to stay in the relationship. You need to be clear and honest about it. and then you need to tell her that until she COMPLETES IT, not just STARTS IT, that you will be moving g forward with legally ending the marriage that her actions and destructive choices destroyed.

It’s hard to do. I understand that. But what’s even worse is staying in limbo for years or decades. Try to wrap your mind around that.

News today, I am the father to my children.

I expected as much, like I said they are spitting images of me.

I had no doubt, but I felt like I had to do SOMETHING. the R ball is in her court and she is doing absolutely nothing with it, I felt like something had to be checked off the list. And since I can not write up her timeline, take her polygraph or read the books for her, I felt like something needed to be done, so there, there is something I have no real concerns or questions about, the DNA test on my kids. BUT that is SOMETHING that I can do.

Now that it is done, back to waiting for her to move.

When I learned of her affair, I didn't come here or Reddit for prob a month, and did a lot of things wrong at first. I never implemented the 180, and frankly, I don't know what it would look like if I did, but I think it might be a good move, focus on my kids and my self. I am starting a garden this week, I have never grown anything in my life, so I am looking forward to learning a new hobby, that sort of thing. I basically quit video games to spend more time with her and she spends it on her phone.

[This message edited by elKAPPYtan at 3:29 PM, May 19th (Wednesday)]

So have you told her you’re a father yet?

I know you want her to do the work because she wants to do it but have you reminded her that these are needs and not wants for you?