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WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 1:26 PM on Friday, June 30th, 2017
There is NOTHING you can do if she chooses to hurt herself.
It is NOT your fault if she chooses to hurt herself.
The best thing you can do is call professionals and back away. You are not equipped to handle this. The professionals are.
Again - there is nothing (short of calling 911 for help) that you can do for your STBXWW.
She has to WANT to get help. Until she does, you'll just stay stuck in the mire.
Trust me. I know.
I'm putting what Gaby wrote back up.
Because those of us who have BTDT, have learned from hard experience, exactly what she wrote.
Read that about a hundred times. Print it out and put it in your pocket.
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
Adlham ( member #53358) posted at 6:42 PM on Friday, June 30th, 2017
Please read Gaby's post and WornDown's reiteration until you truly internalize it.
A friend of mine started dating this guy whose ex was a few sandwiches short of a picnic. She tried to commit suicide by shooting herself in the chest while trying to frame the guy for murder. Luckily, she didn't die and the forensics showed how far she had been willing to go.
You need to just call 911. Immediately.
There is NO need to have that “one last conversation” with a toxic individual in your life.” The closure will come when you look deeper inside yourself. It’s not your job to fix someone when they are unwilling to fix themselves.
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