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unloved22 ( member #49157) posted at 6:28 PM on Saturday, August 22nd, 2015
Sounds like my life Imsickofyou. I am so sorry. I wish I knew someone to get the info for me.
1st WH D-day after divorce (physical abuse caused divorce)
One child together (Elementary Age)
1st WH married his EA/PA
Married to 2nd husband with recent suspicions and triggering behavior.
unloved22 ( member #49157) posted at 3:51 AM on Sunday, August 23rd, 2015
Trythis web site. I got more info there search.ashleymadison.sucks/
1st WH D-day after divorce (physical abuse caused divorce)
One child together (Elementary Age)
1st WH married his EA/PA
Married to 2nd husband with recent suspicions and triggering behavior.
imsickofyou ( new member #49164) posted at 5:24 AM on Sunday, August 23rd, 2015
Thank you unloved22. This gave me all the information I was seeking. I showed it to him and his first comment was that I participated in a felony by knowingly reviewing stolen information. I said by all means, have me prosecuted so your children will know I'm in court because you trolled for females to have sex with on the Internet. I guess that I know now what it means to have crossed the Rubicon. Now he is morally outraged because I don't believe his word. And for this I wasted 25 years of my life.
Married almost 25 years.
Two children.
whattheh ( member #40032) posted at 8:19 PM on Sunday, August 23rd, 2015
My fWH told me to check the dump and he was surprised when I found it showed he had a profile. He has become very forgetful and I think he may be developing dementia which both parents had. That or hes a sociopath or NPD?
Then he claimed MOW must have set it up to frame him. But the IP sign up and latitude longitude were accurate for our 2homes. I was home with him the day he set the account in a different state than MOW.
The email verified said yes as well.
Luckily in our case no credit card was used so things are fairly anonymous.
Now hes claiming he must have set it up to check to see if MOW was on-site herself and he could use it as further ammo to get it to go away. He said the screen nane was something she always said to him which he scretly hated so he used it to mock her. Whole thing has had me wanting to vomit.
He ended up using some elaborate lies about our money situation instead which did the trick(she was after his half of our money) except well she told me about the cheating and included his lies which she still believed. I told her to eff off and did not tell her he lied. He hates her and she really did use emotional blackmail but too bad so sad.
I don't understand why these cheaters can't just tell us the truth. What theyve done is bad enough without layering on the lies which they cant even keep track of as they age.
[This message edited by whattheh at 2:29 PM, August 23rd (Sunday)]
Retired & now in 60's-M 39 Yrs-DD 2013-TT for 3 yrs (new details incl there had been 3 more MOWs)--all this started with porn use for mid 50s WH (felt he was possessed)~~Cheating and aftermath is huge time waste with high opportunity cost~~
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 9:56 PM on Sunday, August 23rd, 2015
When I checked for my ex's dummy email (on ashleymadison.sucks), he had created six profiles, total. Five must have been creepy, free lurker profiles, because only one of them gave his name (which they list as name reported on the CC). So, he finally got tired of getting little to no action, I guess, and then went ahead and paid whatever.
So, I think that if you find your partner's email on there, and there isn't a name listed next to it, that person just created a free lurker account. If the name is there, he paid.
Yet another lie my ex told me-- he only created a free account on AM! Uh-huh.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
whattheh ( member #40032) posted at 10:22 PM on Sunday, August 23rd, 2015
Ive just read in another post that people can alsp pay using paypal and thru itunes. And in those cases their real name may not show up.
Retired & now in 60's-M 39 Yrs-DD 2013-TT for 3 yrs (new details incl there had been 3 more MOWs)--all this started with porn use for mid 50s WH (felt he was possessed)~~Cheating and aftermath is huge time waste with high opportunity cost~~
superchump ( member #47258) posted at 12:53 AM on Monday, August 24th, 2015
I don't understand why these cheaters can't just tell us the truth. What theyve done is bad enough without layering on the lies which they cant even keep track of as they age.
Indeed, a question for the ages.
Me: BS 40's
Him: WS 40's
2 sons
Dday: January 2015- ILYBNILWY speech
EA discovered February 2015
Divorce filed April 2015
Wants another chance.. proceeding cautiously
tluu ( member #48114) posted at 5:59 PM on Monday, August 24th, 2015
sorry am , its hard to chew on this , I do have a question for everyone , why are we all seeking for the true when we already know the answer you don't go to mc Donald to order Chinese food ? sitting still doesn't mean we do nothing , I guess everyone is difference however we all have the six senses if you try hard enough you can tap on to your six senses it will help to make a right decision , meditation also help , good luck
mharris ( member #46683) posted at 8:40 PM on Monday, August 24th, 2015
There's an article on a ste called techlicious dot com Called 3 Ways To Tell If Your Spouse Is On Ashley Madison, or something like that. Start there, if you want to read up. Or google Ashley Madison credit card statement. You will get all the info you need.
HopefulMommy (original poster new member #49086) posted at 10:15 PM on Tuesday, August 25th, 2015
Still can't see the data. His email passwords have changed. Nothing on our cc, but he's not that stupid.
HopefulMommy (original poster new member #49086) posted at 9:27 PM on Tuesday, September 1st, 2015
I just did more digging and found an adultfriendfinder account. It's deleted and can no longer be accessed, but he was getting the emails for two years. Not sure how to keep digging.
Scornedmommy ( member #49499) posted at 12:30 AM on Thursday, September 17th, 2015
HopefulMommy- how did you locate the Adult Friend Finder account. Did your husband use an email address that you already knew? I'm going nuts looking for evidence besides the email was compromised. Any new sites available to check ( before they get shut down) ?
Did you confront your husband with the AM and AFF findings, HopefulMommy?
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