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I'm so sorry. It will all hit him someday just what a huge mistake he has made. Hopefully by then you will have moved on or at least be strong enough to slam the door in his face when his tail is between his legs.

I'm also glad his parents know but I agree, blood is thicker than water. Line up a support system of your family and friends.

I can't imagine why your therapist would dissuade you from coming here. This is not as already stated, social media. This is not FB. This is a healing tool that will be beneficial to you in this journey. My therapist thinks just by description that this is a wonderful tool. Perhaps set your counselor straight or even show them the site so they get it.

Lastly I still do not believe the OW doesn't know about you or the baby. I am crying bullcrap on that. She knows. Find out who she is if you haven't already.

Big big hugs to you. We are here and I am glad we heard from you although it was not the outcome you wanted. Breathe and take advantage of the down time your in laws are giving you.

Did you ever tell your friend that you mentioned? Or your family?

How are you doing Dear? You must be immersed in a flurry of activity punctuated by shock and anguish. You know you can unburden yourself here anytime. And get lots of good advice on what to do and especially how to manage this complete disruption of your life.

Thinking of you!

Are you OK? I do hope you will come back....

I hope you come back too. We are here to support and encourage you. Please check in with us to let us know how you are doing!

he is running back to the ow already.

This just shows that he is not really remorseful and does not really want to get help for himself as he claimed.

How are you doing? Please check in and let us know. We are here to support you.

Hello again. You crossed my mind today. I thought it might be helpful for you to know that. We are all internet strangers, but bound together by this horrible life experience. Strength!

Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts, I appreciate all the support and encouragement everyone on this forum has given me to get me through the toughest time of my life. I am in the works of the legal separation papers, his parents are still in support of me and my family is shocked beyond belief. My focus lately has just been being with my son and working with my individual therapist. He has emotionally checked out and is emotionless to all the pain he caused and the lives he has ruined. He is selfish and not worthy to be part of my sons life since he chose the other woman over his own son. I am never going to be the same after this and I don’t know what the future holds but I know that it’s going to be me and my son for life.

Your life is not ruined. Sure, this is a horrible tempest, and as your story title says, it is unbearable pain... for awhile. But you WILL emerge from this storm strong and focused, and indifferent to him and ready to jump on life.

Your son’s life also is not ruined. How you two co-parent your son will be the stable family system that is all he will know. Has your WH seen the boy since he left? Or did he go to FL? If so has he called so his boy can hear his voice on the phone? Do you worry that WH won’t be in the picture at all going forward? You can make sure your son is not hurt if that happens by having good male role models for him and never bad-mouthing his father. “I do not understand why, but your father decided not to be with us; it is nothing that you or I did to cause this.” That is all you have to say down the road.

I do feel great compassion for WH’s parents. I am sure they are blaming themselves in part because they did their best to raise him well. Do they have other children? I hope their whole family stays in your son’s life; everyone will be richer for that.

Finally, as horrific as this all is, you escaped the dreaded Limbo, where a BS is in shock with a love-bombing WS and holds hope of R for months or years never getting the full truth and living in false R until another DDay. You largely escaped the Suspicion phase also, which is equally torturous, as your discovery to decision stage was just a week. I am not trying to minimize the pain and shock, but just saying you did escape some other awful things due to the way it panned out. You got the “pull the bandaid fast” deal.

Good morning! How is your son’s teething progressing? That can be a trying time all by itself. How are you doing?

He has emotionally checked out and is emotionless to all the pain he caused and the lives he has ruined. He is selfish and not worthy to be part of my sons life since he chose the other woman over his own son.

I am hoping your stupid WH by now may have made a stab at being human. Given his six year history of studied infidelity, this may very well be who he really is. But, maybe, just maybe, he actually loves his son. Maybe he can be a successful co-parent and love and nurture his child, even if a role as husband is unsalvageable. I do hope for his parents’ sake and yours - and your son’s — that there is some hint of humanity left.

Please let us know how you are doing....