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Forbes' tech section ran an article "Ashley Madison Affairs Site Alleged Data Dump And How To Find It" that provides one Tor site that was verified as legitimate by Robert Kalinofski, the founder of Carbon Dynamics, whose company is working on the AM data. You need a Tor browser to open the address, but the Forbes article also provides a link to download the Tor browser. I believe it is the complete data dump, and what some BSs here might find useful is that I believe the data dump includes credit card and phone numbers.

So, if your WS has created a fake email account and used that to register, you might still be able to see whether his/her profile was linked to a known phone number or credit card (you'd just have to search the phone number/credit card file, both of which I'm sure are huge, but if you want to download and check, I think you can).

https://ashley.cynic.al/

I was able to get on using this link..several times.

I found my husband's email. I have never previously caught him cheating, but he has had to explain away some odd internet activity in the past.

I really need to know whether he created a paid account or whether he was creeping out of curiosity.

I am useless when it comes to handling data. Can anyone help?

It is my understanding that AM is free for women..but men have to pay to have an account there.

So..yes..if his email is there..he paid for it.

Im sorry.

If I googled correctly, AM is free for women..but men have to pay to have an account there.

So..yes..if his email is there..he paid for it.

Im sorry.

I don't think that's correct. When I was suspicious of my WW I created an account there and never gave any credit card info or personal info. I can't even remember the logon info now but do remember the email address I used and it was listed along with my current email that shouldn't be associated with it but it is? Now I am a little worried that she will look and say I was cheating. I have nothing to hide though. If she gets on there she will see that all I did was look for her. Never once did I chat with anyone. I never posted any pictures but was still shocked at the women seeming to throw themselves at men... Now I've heard that a lot of women on there aren't really women though...

Yeah, my STBX joined without having to provide a CC. You can troll like a senseless pervert for free, but to 'interact' costs $.

I'm under the understanding that you can create a profile but do not get full access unless you pay a monthly fee....so some of these could just be curious. I wonder if I create a free account if I could find my husbands profile....lol

yes how do you find the rest of the data? So far I have confirmed his email addy is registered there. I made that email address for him a few years back so I know this is not from before we were together. Don't think the internet was going that long ago.

I have TOR set up on my home computer. Or rather, WH has it set up. WH used it for one admitted anonymous hook-up, using an e-mail service that self-destructs after 2 weeks of no activity. (Of course, he told me he was experimenting with TOR because of all of the NSA revelations, and I believed him .) I plan to try to access the data dump on Saturday when I will have some time. I'll report back to you guys.

Trivial, that would be great!!!

You don't need tor or anything exotic. A simple torrent downloader (like bittorrent or utorrent) will do just fine. You'll want a database like MySQL to load the database files.

Note, these are huge: handling 100M+ records takes a lot of time and a real database.

Now I have a dilemma: My STBXWW paid to have her accounts deleted (she was on twice, the second time was during false R.) The first one was not deleted, only the second one. It contains her full name, address, profile, stats, sexual preferences, etc.

Should I tell her, as a courtesy? I'm not looking for schadenfreude, just wondering whether its the right thing to do.

one article said something about purchasing credits on AM? And then what do they do with them? Pay who you want to communicate with? And how do they communicate? email, phone? Then there was an amount listed that said something about guaranteed affair? Wish I could find that article again.

Confused615- I'm sorry. Maybe he didn't have an account. Maybe it is just this AM thing is everywhere and maybe it just dredges up memories or shame feelings in him and maybe he is worried about you and his reaction was just about that. I don't know. I know my husband wasn't on AM, but I have to tell you this AM thing has sent him backwards and he is feeling pretty bad and really ashamed again at what he did to me. We are 6+ years out, we are R'd, we are so far beyond his affairs and then BAM. I think we are both feeling it, even though it doesn't directly impact us, it reminds us of what he did and what we went through. So maybe, just maybe that is all it is with him. I'd go full investigative mode too, but maybe talk to him about how this whole AM thing makes him feel.

Now my small vent..If one more person says AM is OK because well "if you are in a sexless marriage", "not getting enough sex", not getting enough at home" "not getting your sexual needs met"...I'm going to explode, just simply explode. My husband got plenty of sex at home and he still fucked a gazillion women behind my back. It is actually messing with my head 6 years later...I'm wrestling with that maybe I wasn't enough or good enough demon again. UGH.

I'm sorry for everyone who has found their spouse there in the past 48 hours. That just sucks.

Just big fat F-YOU to infidelity & cheaters today.

one article said something about purchasing credits on AM? And then what do they do with them? Pay who you want to communicate with? And how do they communicate? email, phone? Then there was an amount listed that said something about guaranteed affair? Wish I could find that article again.

Men buy "credits" to send messages, chat, and otherwise engage with women. Women do these things for free. The "guaranteed affair" thing is something like $300 and they refund it if the guy doesn't get laid. How they verify that, I have no idea.

This is all about how it works:

http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/aug/20/ashley-madison-hack-your-questions-answered

Someone with AM knowledge please help

I went back through my ws's old business cc statements, the ones that I have.

I did find one charge to AM for $49.95 one month. In subsequent months, there were losts of other suspicious charges to Pay Pal, usually around the 28th of the month, for $180 to $210. Could this be credits that you guys mentioned for AM?

Would it appear the same as AM if he paid by Pay Pal?

Also, do any of you know what Vid Pass is? That appeared with women's names and charges.

Men buy "credits" to send messages, chat, and otherwise engage with women. Women do these things for free. The "guaranteed affair" thing is something like $300 and they refund it if the guy doesn't get laid. How they verify that, I have no idea.

Does the full database contain the member's activities?

Impact released another 20 GB.

Holy crap, all of Noel Bideman's email, site source code, more...