Maisindu (original poster member #59249) posted at 1:56 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
I should've known. Back in 2017 the OW told me he would keep cheating. She was right.
So today, we're talking about buying presents for our sons and he gets really nervous when he opens WhatsApp. I ask what's wrong and he starts breathing restlessly, his hands shake and for one or two hours he won'tlet me see it. Until finally, with the phone intervention of our sons, he hands me the cell phone. And voila! He has an affair with his business partner, who, by the way is totally insane and has stabbed him in the back on countless occasions.
So, this time, I have finally decided to leave. Tomorrow I will see an apartment and if possible, move out soon. Help! My heart is broken but mostly I'm tired of all the bull he's put me through 
Me- BW- 43 Him-WH-52 23yr marriage 2003 EA, 2008 2 EA, 2016-2017 EA/PA 2024 new A
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 4:24 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
So , that you're back. I'm sorry that he didn't put in the work to be a safe partner. It hurts now, but it will get better.
Mine didn't, either. I've been D for a couple of years now, and it's so nice to not have to put up with his behavior.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 5:53 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
I was in false R for one year and it really is the worst. Things get better, they really do stay strong. See a lawyer and know that you were going to be OK keep posting and when you feel a little weak, read the pinned post at the top of the Separation/Divorce forum . It’s 100% true.
I’m so sorry 😞.
[This message edited by BearlyBreathing at 5:54 AM, Monday, December 2nd]
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Webbit ( member #84517) posted at 6:45 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2024
It really is one of the biggest fears for us as BS’s. To forgive and try and learn to love and trust again only for it to be thrown back in our faces. Infidelity once is bad enough let alone twice or more. So I am so sorry to hear that you have had to experience this pain again.
You do however sound strong and determined. I hope you are able to move on and heal from this betrayal.
