Original DDay 30/12 as mentioned before answered all questions etc.
Well on 3/1 he tells me he actually spent 2 nights (not consecutively) with her,is so sorry blah blah blah.Said he had definitely told me everything and had deleted her number.Showed me his phone contacts no one on there that I didn’t know (or so I thought).begging for me to try and work things out.i didn’t say much as we were at DD#3’s place as one of our granddaughters birthday is the 4th.
The day of the 4th was ok.No arguing etc then went to son #2’s place for the night to spend time with one of our grandsons.
He tells me she messaged him that day to say that she had met someone and was moving on,and that he deleted the message.Alarm bells started ringing again.He got drunk,he usually sleeps on his phone but that night it was in his pocket,so I took it and looked threw it.In his screen shotpics was a screen shot of her number.So I typed her number into the contacts search list and he had her number on there under a friends name.I deleted both the screen shot and number.He was really angry that I took his phone and went through it.He didn’t know I had written the OW number down.
So I called her,I’m so glad I did she told me everything,and boy is it a head spinner.
Everything he had told me was a lie.they met on a dating website.they have been seeing each other since the end of October.they spent 4 nights together in total and went on lots of lunch dates.he spent her birthday night with her and also Christmas night.most of our children are adults but we have a son who is 7.he bought home Christmas chocolate stockings,cupcakes and biscuits and told me one of our friends gave them to him for the kids,it turns out she gave them to him.He told the OW the we had been over for a really long time but lived with me to help look after my son who tried to commit suicide.
The OW was falling in love with him,he had met her kids and all.
WH even asked if she wanted to go with him to our 2nd oldest sons with him.
It turns out that he’s been on this dating website for 6 months,I wanted to see his profile but to see it I needed to register.I did under a fake name etc and it says he’s single with no kids under 18.to he even used photos that I took of him.
I also found the Christmas present she bought him in the boot of the car,he had been cranky with me off and on all day because the OW doesn’t want anything to do with him anymore but when I quizzed him about the present he was livid ,I said I was throwing them out and he lost it.
So he left.said he’d be back in a few days. But I went to delete the fake dating website
Who had sent me a message wanting to meet up,My WH.You could have knocked me over with a feather.Then an hour later he sent a text that said I think maybe we should just move on..
Have the last 34 years been one big lie.
His best mate is suddenly single after a long marriage and is on the same dating website,he has a main girlfriend and sleeps with other women regularly but the main girlfriend has no idea.So I’ve worked out that my WH wants a life just like his bestie.Well when he realises that it might be thrilling at first but there’s no loyal person there for him and he’s not seeing your youngest anywhere near as much as he would like and him realising what he is missing out on (which he will) then he will be told to kiss my fat freckle and keep walking.He’s starting to blame me for him doing this,what a load of BS.
