JBWD posted 11/16/2019 19:57 PM

Son’s 12th birthday party today(!)

Absolutely beautiful weather here in San Diego, just a couple friends but they loved playing in the park all afternoon. Mom and I traded off exploring with little sister, some small talk in between... She thanked me for “letting her stay the whole time”- I would never cut her time short with the kids, so that was an entirely unnecessary thanks, not articulated as such but nonetheless curious how she expects me to react to things at times.

Today felt great in many ways. The pain of loss fades- Knowing her pain remains is so sad though.

But I think it was good for her to be with the kids too. Glad to have a good day, thankful for my baby boy and shared moments with family.

foreverlabeled posted 11/17/2019 07:52 AM

Really embracing the gratitude and letting it filter through does wonders for your mind and soul. I'm happy for you that you were able to share his birthday and co parent like you guys did. I'm sure DS appreciated it too in his own 12 year old way.

Good stuff.

landclark posted 11/17/2019 08:05 AM

Being able to coparent despite the relationship issues is so important. I saw what bitterness and anger did to my stepkids when my WH and his ex divorced (the anger only ended a few years back, even though they’ve been divorced for a long time). It does nothing good.

Also, when is it not beautiful weather in San Diego? I’m always told it’s sunny and 70 all year. Lol

[This message edited by landclark at 8:06 AM, November 17th (Sunday)]

JBWD posted 11/17/2019 09:45 AM

LandClark-
This time of year is the end of a 2 month stretch of a hilarious weather game called “It might be 70 today, OR it might be 90+ today!!!! AND I might just change my mind halfway through... “ But generally, yeah, it’s pretty nice.

JBWD posted 11/17/2019 17:51 PM

Case in point- Today it’s 92 out!

landclark posted 11/17/2019 20:46 PM

Lol

I’d take that over below freezing for the foreseeable future.