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For those of you that watch online videos, you’ve undoubtedly come across those “pranks” that people capture on tape. Some are funny but most are pretty stupid. Well I saw one of the worst today.

A guys wife is pregnant. She calls him at work to come home because she is having contractions and is about to deliver. I preface the next bit of info with the couple in question is white. The guy walks into his living room and his wife is holding a black baby. All of the “EMS” personnel are standing around congratulating him. The mailman who is the purported father of the child, comes in and shakes the guys hand. All the while, this poor guy is standing there in utter disbelief.

Finally they let the guy in on the “joke”. I couldn’t believe people could be that cruel, especially the guys wife. WTF is wrong with people to think that was funny? Suppose the guy lost it and someone got hurt? Suppose the baby got hurt? Suppose his unborn child got hurt?

Infidelity is not a laughing matter. I’m not a violent person but I would have had no qualms about smacking the whole lot of them upside the fucking head. With a studded 2x4. Then they can tell me how funny that is. Assholes.

Way too many of those 'prank' videos are staged.

That being said Film, TV, books, etc all tend to portray cheating or affairs completely wrong. Too many cheat and no one is really hurt, or the cheater is excused because it is his soulmate, or one party goes nuts and revenge.

I always feel uncomfortable seeing how badly affairs and cheating are portrayed. And you really notice how common a topic it is in tv and movies.

I was still fairly new to all this when the “Jake from State Farm” commercial was popular and I felt the same way.

you're right.

but remember, most who watch just don't know.

Once you're in the club, it changes.

Doesnt mean people aren't idiots. hugs.

I don't find it funny at all. I have a great sense of humor but that's crossing a line that is far more obnoxious, hurtful, and completely misses the mark on being humorous. Sad and hurtful really.

I can't tell you the amount of shows that I no longer enjoy because they depict infidelity to be no big deal.

However, I can tell you that there are some that I look at and they depict wayward behavior so well that I can barely stand it. H and I enjoyed the show Atypical. Well, last season the mom had an affair, and since then, I have a hard time seeing anything she does as less than selfish or entitled. It is not surprising to me that it would be hard to put down that lens with your own partner who cheated. We normally binge the show but haven't gotten too far into the season at all because we can't stand her. I also think that her H is on the slippery slope of having an EA, and I am afraid they are going to put it in this neat little box that he does it and so they rugsweep. I can't look.

hikingout,

My wife and I have had a few shows that we lost interest in because of how they portrayed infidelity. My BW is at a stage that she will raise her feelings rather matter-of-factly, but I still get a guilt by association feeling everytime.

My wife and I have had a few shows that we lost interest in because of how they portrayed infidelity. My BW is at a stage that she will raise her feelings rather matter-of-factly, but I still get a guilt by association feeling everytime.

It's interesting, I don't feel guilt by association, my reaction is always to check on him. I don't know if it's something that will trigger him. If we continue watching something, I usually want to see how it's handled. And, honestly because I am so busy critiquing that, it just ruins the experience. It's rarely a thing I see they get right in shows, so it always leads us to this discussion where we are just incredulous.

I agree. Like many, I always thought infidelity wasn’t that big of a deal. I more or less bought into the whole Hollywood bullshit story. Star crossed lovers, it was the husband/wife’s fault. They must have done something and deserve to be cheated on.

Now, I find it hard to watch a movie that has it in it. I even had to stop reading a book by one of my favorite authors for the same reason.

Much preparation went into that and not once did someone say to themselves, this doesn't seem right even if it's a joke.

Jorge

What gets me the most was his grinning idiot of a wife. Laughing and smiling at this poor guys expense. Big fucking joke. Har dee har har.

The only thing I can think is was this guy a serial cheater or something and this was her passive aggressive hit back?

The guy should have refused to accept it as a joke, filed divorce papers and then right when his wife was about to lose her mind thinking that a divorce was imminent, he says "just a little prank sweetie!"