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GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 4:26 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2019
Hi
I need some advice on Christian dating sites. I tried to get on Christian mingle. It says it's free to sign up. But I couldn't access much. And the men were from really far away! Not interested.
Are there any Christian dating sights anyone would recommend? I'm currently on Match and Zoosk, and so I do find some there.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 4:51 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2019
Please be careful. It means nothing that the label of the site says "Christian". Lots of predators prowl these sites looking for vulnerable people to exploit. Shields up and use your normal precautions to stay safe.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 5:52 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2019
THanks Chrysalis. Yes, I will. For sure:)
I just wondered if anyone had any recommendations and if their were other sites besides Christian Mingle as I found it to be weird so far...only one match. But having said that, I haven't signed up for it so maybe they don't give you people in your area until you are signed up. Not sure.
Was curious as to others experiences.
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:15 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2019
Not familiar with OLD sites, but I know my local Christian church has groups that meet periodically. Bible studies, women's groups, men's groups, and there's even a singles group. I would inquire at Church if common beliefs are very important to you in your dating life. Good luck!
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 2:35 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2019
Hi Who The Bleep.
Yes, I have gone to one church function so far specifically for singles. Lots of ladies hardly any men. And none for me.
Thanks though:)
LifeSong ( new member #71481) posted at 5:15 AM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
@GraceLove I haven't been on a dating site in 20 years but I was considering going on a paid site and specifying Christian with big bold capital "JESUS" in my profile 
I've been unequally yoked for 18 years and I get why you're not supposed to do that!
Me: FBW (44 time of 1st A)
M 14 years (time of 1st A)
dday#1 1/2014
dday #2 3/2015 during supposed “R”
Still tried to R until 4/2019
WH was never remorseful
DD7 and 2 adult children from PM
"Illusion never changed into something real."
CharliB ( member #59007) posted at 12:39 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
I have tried Christian dating sites and non-Christian dating sites. I found that the same men in my area were on both. I made sure I put exactly what I was looking for in my profile. There are a lot of weeds out there but my Christian SO found me on a non-Christian site and I am very happy at the moment 
The truth doesn't cost you anything but a lie could cost you everything
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 1:23 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
I don't know much about any dating sites. I have looked at them as much as one can without registering.
I did register on Christian Mingle when I shouldn't have just to take a look. I'm not yet D. I had a couple of hits immediately and contacted Christian Mingle to take me down which they did.
There was one site purporting themselves to be Christian I looked at. The first information with each member was what their zodiac sign was.
Once I'm divorced I will probably register on a site. My IC also said that I could consider Christian cruises or tours. It's mostly women that go on them (like your church function, GraceLove). That might be good for an old man, like myself but not so great for Christian ladies.
I'm concerned about what Chrysalis123 writes, too. It is a concern. My IC recommended a book to me called "Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love" by Levine and Heller. (My IC is a born again Christian.) It describes behaviours of different attachment styles and could help sort the wheat from the chaff.
I'll be watching this thread with interest.
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BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 3:15 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
Lifesong:
big bold capital "JESUS" in my profile I've been unequally yoked for 18 years and I get why you're not supposed to do that!
HAha...I almost laughed out loud! Me too...totally get it now. I myself, was sleeping with satan. Lovely contrast at night ...light and dark.
It's so true. I actually had just gone on a couple of dates with an awesome guy who believed in God but just wasn't where I'm at. He ticked so many boxes in terms of what I wanted, but not that one. I had a really good convo with him last night and said I won't be pursuing this further. It saddened him as we did have a really good connection. BUT I know long term, I can't do that anymore.
GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 3:17 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
CharliB
Great to hear! I am being very specific in my profile and it's been awesome as it quickly gets rid of the ones who aren't the one.
GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 3:22 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
Steadychevy
My IC recommended a book to me called "Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love" by Levine and Heller.
Maybe this is a sign...I have had a few other people tell me about this book. Looks like it's something I need to read. I know my attachment style before was insecure and needy. I'm feeling like I'm going more to the middle ground with secure but who knows what happens when I actually get involved again.
I tried Christian Mingle but hadn't signed up. It was awful. People from other parts of the world and just not my types, at all.
I don't think I'll sign up with them. I think I'll just stay on the non-Christian ones and be super specific to the point where I scare off the ones that are not into it. haha
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 4:16 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
The book isn't Christian, GraceLove, but I found it very informative.
I live fairly remote. I drive 60 km to go to church. I think the dating pool for a born again Christian man is pretty shallow, too. I'm going to be pretty rigid about what my requirements are. That might mean single for the rest of my natural life. I'd rather be single, though, than make another mistake.
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
LifeSong ( new member #71481) posted at 8:29 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2019
@GraceLove
I had a really good convo with him last night and said I won't be pursuing this further.
Sounds like smart thinking! You got this!!
Me: FBW (44 time of 1st A)
M 14 years (time of 1st A)
dday#1 1/2014
dday #2 3/2015 during supposed “R”
Still tried to R until 4/2019
WH was never remorseful
DD7 and 2 adult children from PM
"Illusion never changed into something real."
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