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STLLOST posted 5/18/2019 21:21 PM

I was listening to a book on tape the other day when it started talking about something really interesting that made me stop and go hmmm. It says that we are all hard wired to "win". Ask whatever is going on in our lives what we are winning at. I stopped and thought and realized that i have been saying how stupid i was...I was winning at that. I kept putting myself in a position that i considered was stupid. I kept falling for the hope of reconciliation. The book is called unfu*ck yourself. And it talks about ways to quit sabotaging yourself in everything you do

[This message edited by STLLOST at 7:58 AM, May 20th (Monday)]

Dragonfly123 posted 5/19/2019 02:44 AM

Really interesting. I do wonder that a lot. Iíve always thought the APs cling onto the CS (despite the ridiculousness of their relationship) because they want to Ďwiní their prize, but thereís always been an unpleasant niggle deep down that as a BS Iím doing the same and that the urge to Ďwiní keeps us fighting for something unhealthy for us. You see the cases on here where the BS has won their CS back but then it hits, that maybe just maybe infidelity was a deal breaker for them.

Marz posted 5/19/2019 03:07 AM

Or what may have initially looked like a win turned out to be a loss.

Maybe it's just me but it seems like the ratio of false R's and multiple ddays are fairly high.

Scoobydoo posted 5/19/2019 03:40 AM

After the 1st Dday more than 20 yrs ago I may of thought it was a win when I won the 'prize'

it would be funny if it wasn't so sad.

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