After the s**tstorm of my marriage, things have been relatively peaceful and quiet for the better part of 3 yrs now (2yrs after leaving were very volatile due to ex's mental health issues and addiction issues).
This takes us to this month, April.
1. I was very close to my exhusbands grandmother (she mostly raised him). She passed away after a massive stroke at the age of 93 on April 3. We all got to say goodbye before she died, I even brought my ex husband (he doesn't drive and she lives an hour away). I was really worried about how that was going to impact my ex mental issues, but he has done fairly well. I did really well maintaining boundaries while being supportive and grieving.
2. My paternal grandmother passed away last week of leukemia, she was 94. Kids and I made it to see her before she passed and we got to be there when she died.
So that was a double whammy. My best friend died 2 years ago of a brain tumour, and her sister (also close to her) died 6 months later of cancer.
So needless to say, my 15 yr old son and 12 yr old daughter have lost 4 loved ones in 2 years.
3. This sent my 15yr old son over the edge. Last week he tried to harm himself (I wasn't home from work yet) and called the crisis line (which I'm so proud he did, and didn't just try to kill himself like my ex did). Police came and took him to the hospital while I got his sister situated for the night. I was at the hospital within 30 minutes. They assessed him and admitted him and he's been in the children't psychiatric wing since last Wed.
I'm absolutely gutted. His dad is not capable of being a help to me so this is 100% on me. Work has been absolutely amazing and supportive and have allowed me to work from home to at least maintain my salary (I work with students, but lucky for me they are all in exam prep and don't need my services).
I've asked for therapy for his sister and I while dealing with the doctors for him.
No real reason for posting this except to get it off my chest.
I'm a stress cleaner so my house looks amaaaaaaaaaaazing right now.
May 29 2021 ***reclaimed myself and decided to delete my story with my ex because I'm now 7 years free from him and mentally healthier than I've been in years.
*********When you know better, you can do better*************