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feelinghurt99 (original poster new member #49416) posted at 2:54 AM on Friday, March 8th, 2019
Could anyone please help me by recommending a good spy app for an android phone?
benomania ( member #66308) posted at 12:53 PM on Friday, March 8th, 2019
Idk about Spy app. But you can get Life 360 on yours and your partner's phone. This will allow you to see their whereabouts 24/7. Free
Keep in mind that Transparency is an illusion.
They will say what they want
Do what they want.
Hide what they want.
All in the name of keeping their games going in.
You can't police a person. It's not healthy.
I too wanted to spy.
Not no more.
If someone isn't chasing you when you chase them. Isn't loving you when you love them. Isn't respecting you when you respect them.
THEN WHATS THE POINT?
Good luck
maise ( member #69516) posted at 8:28 PM on Friday, March 8th, 2019
((benomania))
Keep in mind that Transparency is an illusion.
They will say what they want
Do what they want.
Hide what they want.
All in the name of keeping their games going in.
You can't police a person. It's not healthy.
I too wanted to spy.
Not no more.
If someone isn't chasing you when you chase them. Isn't loving you when you love them. Isn't respecting you when you respect them.
THEN WHATS THE POINT?
I like how u said this, it's so true. I said something similar to myself while getting through this. Can't 'make someone' do anything, feel anything, say anything. Gotta evaluate ourselves and get to a place where we know what we're willing to accept for ourselves.
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
Zamboni ( member #65496) posted at 9:57 PM on Friday, March 8th, 2019
Ditto times infinity to what Benomania said.
Staying in a constant state of hyper-vigilance will make you bat-shit crazy.
If they prove to be untrustworthy and continue to lie, you must accept that this is who they are.
I played marriage police ... it was awful. He still cheated.
Hugs to you.
[This message edited by Zamboni at 3:59 PM, March 8th (Friday)]
Me: BW
Him: WH Serial Cheater / NPD
Multiple affairs
Almost Divorced
ThisIsSoLonely ( Guide #64418) posted at 11:06 PM on Friday, March 8th, 2019
Staying in a constant state of hyper-vigilance will make you bat-shit crazy.
This. 1000000 times this.
I have lived that - and still find myself wanting to do it. If it's just monitoring, my advice is don't do it. If it's risen to a suspicion that you feel is worthy of determining if it's real (aka - don't fly off the handle after you "think" you may have heard 1 thing - notice patterns) then find out for sure (be it a VAR or a PI or whatever). Using "transparency" to catch someone doesn't work - it just let's them know where they can and cannot go to avoid detection better. When the shit hits the fan using technology to catch works - using monitoring just gives a false sense of security.
You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Act accordingly.
Constantly editing posts: usually due to sticky keys on my laptop or additional thoughts
SMSA925 ( member #43955) posted at 4:47 AM on Saturday, March 9th, 2019
The other posters are right. And I used Mspy. Lol. I remember when I was newly betrayed I didn't know what the hell was happening in my own life. I certainly didn't believe a word he was saying. I installed Mspy on his phone while he was asleep. It worked very well giving me info like who he was calling/texting. Got the whole texting conversations. Showed where he was and when. Got me over the the shock period. You'll get here, too. Until then remember to take care of and focus on YOU. It's all about YOU now
Me: BS; b. 1958
Him: WH b. 1952
Together since 1982, Married 20yrs at DDay#1
DDay April 17, 2014; DD#2 2/15
My ducks lined up, life is good!
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