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feelinghurt99 posted 3/7/2019 20:54 PM

Could anyone please help me by recommending a good spy app for an android phone?

benomania posted 3/8/2019 06:53 AM

Idk about Spy app. But you can get Life 360 on yours and your partner's phone. This will allow you to see their whereabouts 24/7. Free

Keep in mind that Transparency is an illusion.
They will say what they want
Do what they want.
Hide what they want.
All in the name of keeping their games going in.
You can't police a person. It's not healthy.
I too wanted to spy.
Not no more.
If someone isn't chasing you when you chase them. Isn't loving you when you love them. Isn't respecting you when you respect them.
THEN WHATS THE POINT?
Good luck

maise posted 3/8/2019 14:28 PM

((benomania))

Keep in mind that Transparency is an illusion.
They will say what they want
Do what they want.
Hide what they want.
All in the name of keeping their games going in.
You can't police a person. It's not healthy.
I too wanted to spy.
Not no more.
If someone isn't chasing you when you chase them. Isn't loving you when you love them. Isn't respecting you when you respect them.
THEN WHATS THE POINT?

I like how u said this, it's so true. I said something similar to myself while getting through this. Can't 'make someone' do anything, feel anything, say anything. Gotta evaluate ourselves and get to a place where we know what we're willing to accept for ourselves.

Zamboni posted 3/8/2019 15:57 PM

Ditto times infinity to what Benomania said.

Staying in a constant state of hyper-vigilance will make you bat-shit crazy.

If they prove to be untrustworthy and continue to lie, you must accept that this is who they are.

I played marriage police ... it was awful. He still cheated.

Hugs to you.

[This message edited by Zamboni at 3:59 PM, March 8th (Friday)]

ThisIsSoLonely posted 3/8/2019 17:06 PM

Staying in a constant state of hyper-vigilance will make you bat-shit crazy.

This. 1000000 times this.

I have lived that - and still find myself wanting to do it. If it's just monitoring, my advice is don't do it. If it's risen to a suspicion that you feel is worthy of determining if it's real (aka - don't fly off the handle after you "think" you may have heard 1 thing - notice patterns) then find out for sure (be it a VAR or a PI or whatever). Using "transparency" to catch someone doesn't work - it just let's them know where they can and cannot go to avoid detection better. When the shit hits the fan using technology to catch works - using monitoring just gives a false sense of security.

SMSA925 posted 3/8/2019 22:47 PM

The other posters are right. And I used Mspy. Lol. I remember when I was newly betrayed I didn't know what the hell was happening in my own life. I certainly didn't believe a word he was saying. I installed Mspy on his phone while he was asleep. It worked very well giving me info like who he was calling/texting. Got the whole texting conversations. Showed where he was and when. Got me over the the shock period. You'll get here, too. Until then remember to take care of and focus on YOU. It's all about YOU now