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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 2:00 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Randomly pick up WW's phone. 1 message sent at 3:30 this morning to another guy. 1 message.Literally sent while I was walking out the door to go to work. Meaning others were deleted because without other messages this one made no sense.

Gonna be a long night.

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Chicky ( member #18622) posted at 2:06 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

I am so very sorry - I know how it feels. Prayers for strength.

Givers need to set limits because takers never do. THIS GIVER DID and because I stood my ground, we are happily RECONCILED!

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Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 2:11 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

What's your plan?

D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks

"My faith is mine now."

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Buster123 ( member #65551) posted at 2:15 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

I'm sorry about your situation, your WW seems to be a SERIAL CHEATER, I mean you just discovered her first A a few weeks ago with a potential child molester and she's already talking to another OM behind your back ? oh hell no, could she have been in contact with both OMs at the same time ? not that it matters much but wow, I agree it's going to be a very long night and rightly so, whatever you do don't leave the house, if someone needs to leave it's her, consult an attorney ASAP.

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NotHisDoormat ( member #59560) posted at 2:16 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

I am so sorry. I’m on round 2 myself. What is wrong with people?! Are you going to look for more evidence or confront?

Sending you strength..

Me: 40 F BS
Him: 44 M WH
Trying to R from prostitutes and sex addiction.

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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 2:18 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

At this moment, I do not have one simply because it was a huge kick in the balls. I can't head out because the kids would be left here when she goes to work. I saw the message and asked who it was (sarcastically) and she started to give me an explanation but that ship has sailed. I am literally shaking right now.

On top of that, my damned VAR won't sync to my PC at the moment so I don't even know if there was anything to hear today without sitting there with headphones on or playing it aloud. Part of me wants to go Hiroshima but instead I started washing bedding for the guest room to where I shall retire for the evening (my choice). She can have the master bedroom. I hate it anyway.

I guess I will call my union legal department tomorrow and start the D paperwork. Maybe have her served and see if that changes her attitude. Just curious, does anyone know if Dr. Fone will work without her password if the phone itself is not password protected?

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firenze ( member #66522) posted at 2:27 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Like I said in your recent thread in General, the time to serve her with divorce papers is now.

Me: BH, 27 on DDay
Her: WW, 29 on DDay
DDay: Nov 2015
Divorced.

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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 2:31 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Looks that way Firenze.

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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 2:59 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

DAMMIT and she sent it thru imessage so it isn't showing up on the phone record.

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toby ( member #10337) posted at 3:39 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Did you get the phone number of who she text?

Does the name she gave you match the number?

Did you check the call log for the number?

What was the text she sent?

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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 3:53 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

The text was innocuous. The problem is she deleted whatever thread it was attached to so it does not make sense without the thread. This is a person who never deletes a thread. EVER.

She didn't give me a name. I saw it in the phone at the top of the message header.

Nothing in the call log but I am betting she just uses facetime.

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toby ( member #10337) posted at 4:01 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

So you saw the phone number or name, right?

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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 4:07 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Yes. At least what WW has him under in the phone. She is in full on defense mode now but has zero reason for having deleted the messages.

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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 4:13 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Nothisdoormat I already confronted. I had had enough. Enough lies, enough TT, enough feeling that things were going to get better but deep down knowing they aren't.

Gonna go to bed. Thanks for being here. If you are of the praying sort, please pray for guidance for me. 'Night.

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toby ( member #10337) posted at 4:15 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Ok. So she won’t have a problem with you looking at the number attach to the name then. If she didn’t already change the contact info.

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Jsmart ( member #56437) posted at 10:50 AM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Grab her phone and call the number. Her actions don’t match with someone having a EA with OM that’s far away.

You better up your CIA game. I suggest that get her text restored through a security app or just take it to a specialist. For a couple hundred bucks, you should be able to get a tech to get the goods.

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 Happenedtome2 (original poster member #68906) posted at 3:06 PM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

She's in full on defense mode. Guys is a short term BF from when she was in high school (does this story sound familiar to anyone?) I kid you not.

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ThisIsSoLonely ( Guide #64418) posted at 3:14 PM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

I'm sorry you joined the Dday2 club. It's total bull____. I don't have much to add except shake to get that energy out, get mad, let her know it, and make yourself PLAN A right now and let the chips fall as they may.

You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Act accordingly.

Constantly editing posts: usually due to sticky keys on my laptop or additional thoughts

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tikismom ( member #60546) posted at 3:35 PM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

Happenedtome2

I am not sure your full initial story & dday 1, but my WH had a EA & PA with an ex from high school (who the woman is also friends with my SIL) & it has taken us down a very horrible, slippery slope. All of my ddays had to do with the same OW, so I dont have experience if she is doing this with multiple men, but I just wanted to say I am sorry & I can relate.

Me: 39
Him: 43 (NPD)
DDay #1: Sept 2017; Lots of TT & DDays since. EA & PA with an EX. Last known contact with OW: end of December 2017.
Married 10 years, together 15 at time of dday. 2 very young children.
Status: Working daily toward R.

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farsidejunky ( member #49392) posted at 5:36 PM on Wednesday, January 30th, 2019

You know, man, this sucks.

But...

Not so much to make you done evidently.

If you were done, you would file for divorce because you were done, as opposed to doing it to provoke a reaction.

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”

-Maya Angelou

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