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GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 1:11 AM on Monday, September 10th, 2018
I went into a health store the other day. It was a shop that I had frequented very regularly and had gotten to know the salesclerk.
At the time, I was married with large boils and pimples on my face, eating-disordered thin, depressed among other things. Just plain unhealthy.
That was 2 years ago.
When she saw me she couldn't believe how much my face had cleared! (I'm also at a good weight). She was happy for me and somewhat intrigued, so I told her how I did it.
" I'm getting divorced!". (lots of smiling and laughing)
We high-fived each other.
Ahhhh...as hellish as this experience has been, there are perks and it is soooooo nice to be reminded of where I was and where I am now.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:10 AM on Monday, September 10th, 2018
You have come a long way.... finding your power... using it and moving on.
(((GL))) You go girl!!
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 12:10 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2018
Wow, this is a great story, GraceLove. It seems the horror going on inside my body and mind, affected you on the outside as well. So happy you are getting out of a truly unhealthy situation! As am I.
Yaaaay!!!!
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Heart ( member #56144) posted at 12:36 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2018
Happily Free Now
Me.... former betrayed wife
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 12:54 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2018
Good for you!!! 
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 4:38 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2018
In the bumpy road towards healing, it is easy to forget how far we have come; thus, I am glad the salesclerk reminded you that you are moving on the right direction 
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 9:29 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2018
Stress manifests in many ways!
I have a condition that definitely gets worse whenever I am overwhelmed.
Like you, it was amazing what my D did for my condition 
You go girl!~
GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 5:04 AM on Tuesday, September 11th, 2018
Thanks for the encouragement everyone. I really appreciate it.
I had just had a 'moment' where for some ridiculous reason I wanted to phone him and let him have it. (He FINALLY re-directed his mail after over a year). The fact that he wouldn't do this before triggered me.
AND I have been in NC since December, (since my DD wedding day). Only contact is through the lawyers.
I reaaaalllly don't want to break my beautiful NC, I've worked so hard to re-direct the anger. Yet there are these moments where I think: "will it really hurt do just let it out?" It's such a temptation and one I have been able to overcome so far.
Anyways, just had to get that out for now.
yuvas ( member #59339) posted at 10:03 PM on Tuesday, September 11th, 2018
Don’t! Maybe your interaction with the salesclerk was meant to be a positive reminder on why NC is important for you.
That’s such a great story!
GraceLove (original poster member #59212) posted at 12:33 AM on Wednesday, September 12th, 2018
Thanks yuvas. I know I shouldn't break my pact with myself. I will not contact him.
lilies21 ( member #35833) posted at 2:30 PM on Wednesday, September 12th, 2018
Way to go, GraceLove!
(((GraceLove)))
Me: BS, 30s.
One son.
Many D-Days for excessive porn, Craigslist ads, and EAs/PAs.
Happily divorced since September 2015.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:43 AM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 3:30 PM on Friday, September 14th, 2018
You go girl!!! I am always happy to hear when someone is doing as good as you!!!
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
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