disjunction ( member #7291) posted at 9:36 PM on Thursday, February 16th, 2006
Not discussing religion or politics is a basic rule of polite discourse. This is a totally reasonable request.
DJ
sadandafraid ( member #7861) posted at 6:15 PM on Wednesday, February 22nd, 2006
Hear hear angry and truth - one of my posts (for which I received many supportive PMs) was deleted by the mods. I think this is just one example of the pathetic age we live in when we are constantly being told we must avoid offending others. Hence the crap of Political Correctness (oh sorry, have I hurt a PC believer?)
The fact is, that as truth said, EVERYTHING can offend someone. I could have got offended by the remark made by a poster who was blatently anti-abortion and kept calling the bunch of cells which had been aborted as 'a baby' and 'a life'.
There may be Mormons who come into this site as BSs and get offended because someone says, 'Gosh I need a coffee!'
For crying out loud - we're all meant to be adults.
Me BW 43
Him WH 47
26 years together
1 beautiful daughter 19
D-Day #1 13/09/02
D-Day #2 12/11/05
"What if you should decide
That you don't want me there by your side?
That you don't want me there in your life?"
(Coldplay)
jqadams ( new member #9863) posted at 8:25 PM on Wednesday, February 22nd, 2006
As a new member to SI, this was the first thread I read. Not sure it bodes well for the rest of the site if everyone can't feel safe to share their thoughts in a respectful manner. I can understand the lack of relevance between political beliefs and the healing from infidelity, but religious faith is a totally different matter. To many, it is the core sustainance that got them through the pain, to either forgive or repent, and to move on to a healthier place. Should this be a missionary battlefield to win souls? No, of course not. But to preclude someone from explaining how faith helped them through the recovery process denies them the opportunity to express themselves honestly on this forum. I thought that was what this forum was all about.
SI Staff (original poster moderator #10) posted at 8:44 PM on Wednesday, February 22nd, 2006
jqadams...
What an interesting first post.
cortjstr ( member #9669) posted at 10:08 PM on Monday, March 6th, 2006
that was lame..my post was not religious..it reflected no religous belief or opinion and it did not aspire to induce religious debate...it was a friggin joke that's a bullshit call moderators!!!!!!
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 9:13 PM on Tuesday, March 7th, 2006
cortjstr...
I'm not sure why you think us moving your joke thread to Fun & Games was "bullshit"
DS
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
spincycle ( member #5853) posted at 5:45 AM on Wednesday, March 29th, 2006
I've got to say that if I post to a thread and say I'll pray for you, that should really be allowed. I know that in America we have to bend backwards over for athiests, commies, and everyone else for the purpose of not offending the obscenely SMALL minority, but for christ sakes (intended)are infidelity boards under attack? This board IS based in Texas. I didn't think we played that shit here.
Me, 37 BH
WS, 32, and 6 (now 10) (now 12)separate affairs
DS 5, and DD 2.
D-DAY 11-18-04
Divorced 2-2012, if only I had listen to you all in 04, if only I had run away.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:39 PM on Wednesday, March 29th, 2006
Spin...
I'm confused by your post. Are you saying that because SI is based in Texas it should be run in fundamentalist fashion and people should be able to say what they want about religion?
If you could clarify, I would appreciate it 
DS
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
drowninginsorrow ( member #4545) posted at 3:44 PM on Wednesday, March 29th, 2006
so... a priest and a rabbi and a baptist minister go to a support board....
and they all are respectful of everyone else posting 
Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:46 PM on Wednesday, March 29th, 2006
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Ivy2006 ( new member #9214) posted at 1:59 PM on Sunday, May 7th, 2006
Healing and faith in God often go hand in hand. I have always enjoyed reading and posting here but now I have to be politically correct and talk like an atheist ????
Grow up moderators - are we on a communist site where freedom of speech is non -existant?? Me thinks you all have too much time on your hands to micro-manage the site and no backbone to allow freedom of speech.
[This message edited by Ivy2006 at 9:47 AM, May 7th (Sunday)]
you do not know what hell is like until you have walked in a betrayed woman's shoes,,,,
SI Staff (original poster moderator #10) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2006
And your above post just shows what a tolerant Christian you are.
You have a PM from yesterday.
dazedinCA ( member #5618) posted at 7:05 PM on Monday, May 8th, 2006
FYI...
Freedom of speech is a constitutional right that applies only to situations that involve the government. Private organizations, companies and individuals can limit you in any way they please. THAT is *their* right.
ETA: Posting here is a privilege, *not* a right.
[This message edited by dazedinCA at 1:06 PM, May 8th (Monday)]
Pfffffft...
"As rain falls on the just and the unjust alike, let your heart be untroubled by judgements and let your kindness rain on all."
"At the bottom of things, most people want to be understood and appreciated."
Ivy2006 ( new member #9214) posted at 3:34 AM on Tuesday, May 9th, 2006
Why label me as a "tolerant Christian"....YOU just offended me by assuming I am!! What if I told you I believed in Allah, Mohammed and Buddah???
Do not private post to me - have enough backbone to say what you have to say here in front of everyone else. The more I hear from you moderators the more you make me
The people at this site are great..you moderators SUCK! 
[This message edited by Ivy2006 at 9:36 PM, May 8th (Monday)]
you do not know what hell is like until you have walked in a betrayed woman's shoes,,,,
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:42 AM on Tuesday, May 9th, 2006
***What if I told you I believed in Allah, Mohammed and Buddah??? ***
You didn't mention any of them...you referred to God, which is meant in the Christian language.
I have backbone enough to tell you that we don't need your insults here.
I hope you find the healing and peace you seem to need.
DS
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
kdny ( member #760) posted at 3:43 AM on Tuesday, May 9th, 2006
DS is nicer than I am.
I suck enough to kick your nasty ass right off the site.
Bye bye.
Whether we remain ash or become phoenix is up to us.
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Sometimes the fine line between a nervous breakdown and knowing things will be okay is a pair of furry pants~unfound
KSA2 ( member #9474) posted at 11:42 PM on Wednesday, May 10th, 2006
Freedom of speech in the US is your constitutional right to criticize your government without fear of persecution.
It does not mean you can falsely shout "fire" in a crowded theater.
It also does not mean you can go to someone's house, become abusive, and expect that no on can make you leave.
This is a private site. Think of it as DS and MH's living room, if you will. They've invited us in and welcomed us - behave as any courteous guest would and abide by their rules, and you'll have no problems.
Otherwise, they may pitch you out on your ass, and all the screaming of "You're mean!" at them won't make a bit of difference.
[This message edited by KSA2 at 5:43 PM, May 10th (Wednesday)]
No one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does. So, what are we, helpless? Puppets? Nah. The big moments are gonna come, you can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts. That's when you find out who you are.
brokenone ( member #6577) posted at 11:19 PM on Thursday, May 11th, 2006
[This message edited by brokenone at 6:06 PM, May 17th (Wednesday)]
It's not about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and get back up and keep going.
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Markus ur Alias ( member #10889) posted at 6:12 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2006
I'm new here but for what it's worth I am very hard headed regarding the aforementioned topics and I have seen them turn other boards (also not political or religious) to crap. This is an excellent policy and I'm not indicitive of the moderator's faith or lack thereof. Good work mods.
"I know the pieces fit cuz I watched them fall away
mildewed and smoldering, fundamental differing,
pure intention juxtaposed will set two lovers souls in motion
disintegrating as it goes testing our communication"
Tool - Schism
willowiris ( member #5372) posted at 6:14 PM on Monday, June 5th, 2006
But they have said that if Dick Cheney gets a nun pregnant then I am able to discuss it as an infidelity related thread! 
D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006
We accept the love we think we deserve. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower."
