Hiya!
I’m curious if anyone here is familiar with Jennie Young’s Burn The Haystack method. I follow her on social media, so I already have a pretty solid sense of how to implement it. Even though I’m not on the dating apps yet (and honestly… maybe not ever 🫣😂), I’ve started noticing the patterns in my everyday life. It’s been eye‑opening. I’ve either quietly distanced myself from certain people or at least gained clarity about the kind of person I’m dealing with.
It is a ruthless system for finding a healthy, well adjusted partner and I’m absolutely here for it. I’m not really actively dating, but every now and then a friend or my cousin will pop up with, "FL, I have the perfect guy for you!" So for the first time, I let my cousin set me up on a blind date.
We talked a few days beforehand to set things up, and the conversations were actually good. Promising, even.
And then… the date didn’t go so well. I was stood up
Which was fine! I looked cute as hell, the weather was perfect, the venue was great, I stayed and enjoyed myself anyway. I sent a "Hey, I’m here" text about 20 minutes in giving him the chance to say something like "Ugh, traffic." But at 45 minutes with no response? Blocked.
My cousin thought that was harsh and tried the whole "something probably came up, give him another chance" routine. Listen, Linda… I’m pushing 40. I don’t have the patience for the nonsense I tolerated at 20. I expect a basic level of respect and reliability, especially if/since I’m still hoping for a meaningful, loving, healthy relationship. A no call, no show ain't it.
And honestly, if I hadn’t found the BTH method, I probably would have made excuses for him. I might’ve given him the benefit of the doubt, or worse, who knows how many chances.
Jennie’s book recently came out and my local library finally has it. I’m waiting my turn, but in the meantime… has anyone read it yet? Did you like it? And compared to what’s already out there about the method, did you find the book added anything new or valuable?
