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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 8:41 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2024

And yes, I've been a push over my whole life.

Me too!

Until dday2 of his second affair. The typical midlife crisis affair where he was D me to be with the OW.

After R and hashing out the issues, he’s now afraid I will D him. And he knows I will in a heartbeat if I have to.

I no longer rugsweep anything. And my opinion is the only one that matters to me.

I hope this helps you see you can change your marriage balance of power. I was afraid to do anything at dday1 for fear he would D me.

Now? I’m afraid of nothing.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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RocketRaccoon ( member #54620) posted at 6:52 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2024

Anger took over and then this primal urge took over to reclaim the marriage. And here we are, working on it.

Errm, this is not a good reason for R. Your mind is still irrational, and making such a decision under such circumstances will not bode well for you on the long run.

A suggestion here, control the 'primal urge' (I know it may be difficult), and take a step back. Look at things as objectively as you can before you make a decision.

You cannot cure stupid

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