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 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 5:34 PM on Saturday, October 14th, 2023

The other night I had a dream...

I was traveling through the forest, in the mountains. It was cold, and wet, and dark, and the stars were unfamiliar to my eyes. I had been hiking for miles, for days, and I was weary and despaired. As I walked through the trees I saw a campfire ahead in a clearing.

"Hello there" called the old man, "please come and share the warmth of my fire and rest."

As I sat down to shake off the dampness he asked, "To where do your journeys take you, my son?"

"I don’t know", I remarked, "I’ve lost my way and I suspect I’ve been walking in circles. I can’t seem to find my way."

The campfire danced in his youthful eyes. "Are you so certain?" he asked, "Let me tell you a story..."

There are two wolves that dwell within the souls of every person...

"I’ve heard this one" I said.
"Have you?" he asked, and then continued...

The first wolf is the White Wolf. A fiery and passionate creature, representing our hearts and emotions. It is the embodiment of love, of empathy, of compassion and creativity. She wants to guide us towards kind and heartfelt actions, nurturing the connections we have with others. The White Wolf is strong and powerful, but lacks vision and can be susceptible to anger and fear.

The second wolf is the Black Wolf. A cold and calculating figure, symbolizing our mind and intellect. It stands for logic, for reason, and for critical thinking. He aims to lead us down the path of knowledge, wisdom, and understanding. The Black Wolf is careful and cunning, but is timid and callous, and lacks conviction.

These two wolves are constantly vying to influence our choices and actions. They offer us different perspectives, and neither should dominate the other.

"So, which one wins, old man?" I smirked.

They must work together, for in harmony, they lead us towards a life of wisdom and kindness. The wolf that wins is the one you choose to follow in each moment. Sometimes our heart’s passion propels us forward, and at other times, our mind’s thoughtful reasoning finds the way. The true victory is in understanding when to let each wolf guide you on your journey for a balanced and fulfilling life.

That is where we find the third wolf. The Grey Wolf. When both the White Wolf and the Black Wolf can find harmony in their stride. The Grey Wolf understands the necessity of both sides and strives to make peace between them.

The Grey Wolf teaches us that there is balance between our darker tendencies and our virtue. That there is passion, yet peace; that there is serenity, yet emotion; that in the chaos there is order; and that in loss there is rebirth. By finding balance and by making fully conscious choices, we can forge our own path that leads to harmony, understanding, and fulfillment.

The next morning when I awoke, the campfire had been doused and was gently smoking.

The old man was nowhere to be found.

But the sky was clearer...

And at the edge of the clearing was a path that I had not seen the night before.

"Thank you father" I whispered, as I packed up my gear to continue along my way.

[This message edited by SerJR at 6:33 PM, Saturday, October 14th]

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 3:19 PM on Sunday, October 15th, 2023

..hey there SerJR...it's been a while...

Life's Obstacles...
Our lives don't always take straight and easy roads. They have twists, turns, switchbacks and roadblocks---sometimes--- maybe often ...of one's own making.

My wife (Looking Forward)...wrote this several years ago and stuck it on our fridge door. It's still there. I see it as her admission that her horrible choices were "of her own making". She's come a l o n g way since making those bad choices.

Whether or not a wolf of any colour had something to do with it, I will leave it up to our readers to decide.

I loved your story.... nice to see you again SerJR..( old timer ) laugh laugh

smy smile

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think!Me 77 Her 73 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!

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 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 11:27 AM on Monday, October 16th, 2023

@smy - Nice to see you too oldtimer - I hope things are well for you! Glad you enjoyed the story, and what a poignant quote from LookingForward! smile

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 4:21 PM on Wednesday, October 18th, 2023

Great post!

"I’ve lost my way and I suspect I’ve been walking in circles. I can’t seem to find my way.

Without a doubt, pretty much every new member here is in this cycle of turmoil. We all reach a point where the white and black wolf mesh, with time and wisdom we can gain more clarity to move forward.

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 2:46 AM on Thursday, October 19th, 2023

Hi SerJR. Had to read this when I saw it came from you. I also remember you from way too long ago.

Good story and good reminder. I have to agree with annb that it's a pretty good bet that just about everyone here has been in that exit-less roundabout for a while on this journey.

Don't be a stranger!

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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2oldforthis ( member #19825) posted at 2:51 PM on Thursday, October 26th, 2023

Also had to read this because it was SerJr. Good post. I am another long timer and was going to post some thoughts because I will be celebrating 50 years of marriage next month. It has been a long and difficult road. We are not going to make a big deal about our anniversary with others. I am happy to be married but not proud of the marriage so we are spending the time privately together.

My advice to others is don't be hard on those who choose to stay and also don't be hard on those who choose to leave there is no right answers. Different circumstances, different reason for those choices. Please support those that may be different than yours. I don't feel like some kind of hero that I stayed, it was very hard, lots of pain, lots of work. It's probably not something that I will ever forget but you can manage it.

For those new, I feel for you, take 1 day at a time. Take care of yourself.

He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!

Love kills slowly.

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