This is just a general question looking for feed back - how come passwords to accounts are so important to BS's here?
It’s not to prevent cheating, it’s to catch them as early as possible so that you can take self protective action. If you’re in a false R, you want to know as soon as possible. Time is of the essence. Transparency is not a policing action, it’s for monitoring. It’s a part of your due diligence, as if you’re about to invest in a risky business venture, or any risky venture and, reconciliation is definitely a risky venture. A venture that you should have built in LACES (Lookouts, Awareness, Communications, Escape Routes, Safety Zones).
This is a military and wildland firefighting acronym that applies to many scenarios. It’s not very romantic and perhaps a bit pragmatic, but it applies to the seriousness, risk and instability of our post D-day world.
Lookouts: Transparency, look for re-emerging waywardness. Surveil. Inform OBS and collaborate.
Awareness: Pay attention, look for undergrounding of the A, monitor for trends, changes in behavior and attitude. Don’t rug sweep, don’t get trapped in denial or Pollyannaish expectations, remain pragmatic-not necessarily cynical, just remain realistic. Don’t get complacent.
Communications: Maintain good communications and emotional intimacy. Share feedback and constructive critique, express needs.
Escape Routes: Have your escape routes-plans predetermined that includes safe refuge. Establish trigger points to invoke your escape plan.
Safety Zones: Safe Rufuge and Boundaries. Establish and/or reinforce boundaries. Your personal boundaries and mutually arrived at boundaries. Have a contingency plan predetermined should a boundary be crossed. Have a safe place to land should you need to separate. Know what separation involves.
[This message edited by RealityBlows at 8:34 PM, Thursday, October 5th]
