willitlastforever (original poster new member #80897) posted at 6:53 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2022
Question(s) for WS. After D day view my marriage during the affair very different now. I'm curious if your perception of your marriage while you were an affair is different now that the affair is over. My WW felt she was a good spouse even during her affairs which leads to my 2nd Question, when you reflect to you ever ask yourself how you could think your were a good spouse and how could you not understand the damage you were doing with each selfish act?
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 10:14 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2022
Hello, willitlastforever. Welcome to SI, the greatest club that no one ever wanted to join.
In the "I Can Relate" forum there is a thread entitled: "BS Questions for WS."
I suggest you repost your question there as you'll probably get more responses from wayward spouses.
Meanwhile, spend a little time browsing The Healing Library. You'll find a link at the top of the main page. Inside the "Articles" section you'll find a wealth of great essays from veteran SI members to help get you started on your journey towards recover and healing.
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
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