Footinmouth (original poster member #56528) posted at 7:43 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2022
I had thought my WH had said she used a fake number the whole time so I used peoplebyname search to check a number that showed up a lot on our phone bill I wanted info on her incase she got vindictive. Anyway the search showed totally wrong info some real estate agent so I emailed them and said it was wrong they said they refund my credit. Anyway I asked my husband later and he showed me it was the phone everyone used at work so legit. Now I’m terrified this company is going to call his work and say someone was looking them up and since he’s acting in charge right now they blame him and everyone know who did it. Do these companies do that? This whole affair thing has made me a basket case.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:19 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2022
I am pretty sure those site dont share that info…. They tell you someone may be looking you up, but not who.
Don’t worry, you are fine.
Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Footinmouth (original poster member #56528) posted at 8:31 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2022
Problem Is if they call up the company phone the use for important stuff and say someone’s looking he will know it’s me. I just want to put his behinde me. I was doing it for our benefit but now I feel so guilty like I’m feeling like he is now like I could wreck everything and racked with guilt over it as I said I’d let it go. I’m just hoping they don’t contact people at all.
Ariopolis ( member #75786) posted at 9:54 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2022
Now I’m terrified this company is going to call his work and say someone was looking them up
No this won't happen. That company has so much trouble answering their dissatisfied and unhappy customers, they could not care less about some insignificant random number they tried to look up.
Your biggest problem is making sure they don't charge you monthly. They have an awful rating and loads of complaints about payments.
Footinmouth (original poster member #56528) posted at 10:08 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2022
Ty this makes me feel better I freaked out about them being a scam after and canceled my card right away lol so not too worried about the billing but the only reason I went this route is because it’s caused WH massive anxiety to ask about these things. He thinks OW could act sorta Glen Close like so I wanted info on her incase she got funny. She’s only contacted him once since the goodbye and he showed me basically from a false number she told him how dare he delete his email and she’s to quit her job and go off somewhere where that’s not the safest to live unless basically he stops her. He just ignored her.
Ariopolis ( member #75786) posted at 10:58 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2022
A search finder only has one purpose and that is to make money. The employees they have are making pennies, don't want to be there and have zero interest in making more work for themselves by getting involved in one of the hundreds (?) of clicks they get a day.
But you need a whole lot more support than you seem to be getting. If you're not all right with how things stand, if you're not sure things have ended, if you are worried about your safety and well being, tell your WH you need some things from him. I hope so much you find peace and comfort soon. You don't deserve these crippling feelings of unease. Your goodness, decency and honesty leap off the page.
I have zero sympathy for your WH's anxiety. Do you know what works wonderfully for reducing anxiety? Having deep, revealing, honest, soul baring talks with your wife. Tell him Ari said so.
Footinmouth (original poster member #56528) posted at 12:52 AM on Tuesday, January 11th, 2022
Ty everyone for your kind reply’s I honestly don’t know how I’m feeling other than the anxiety it’s like I won’t let myself feel at all. I may reach out to a friend of mine whose also a life coach/therapist because I know I can trust her.