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Thoughtso (original poster new member #79633) posted at 11:34 PM on Monday, November 29th, 2021
This is only 2 weeks new for me and my husband is currently out of town still for work. Im having such a hard time with the emotional roller coaster and needing his reasurance. I start counselling for myself Wednesday what are some things i should be asking. I dont even know where to start
DailyGratitude ( member #79494) posted at 1:27 AM on Tuesday, November 30th, 2021
Sorry you are here. I am about 3 months out so I’ve been on the rollercoaster for a little longer than you. It does get easier as time goes by. I promise.
This is a traumatic experience for you so give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions that come to you. Don’t give them too much weight. Just let them come and go. They will slowly dissipate and settle down. Practice self care. It’s so important. Sleep, eat, drink, meditate, walk, talk to a friend, etc. Again, give yourself permission to do whatever you need to do to survive. It’s ok to not clean the house, do the laundry, etc. It’s ok to order out for every meal, you get my point. Designate one or two trustworthy friends and rely on them heavily. If you come from a place of faith, lean into that too.
As for counseling, the counselor will lead so you don’t have to prepare any questions.
SI is a great place for support and resources. Come back often and rely on the wonderful folk here to help you.
Me: BW mid 50’sHim: WH late 50’sMarrried 25 yearsDday: EA 2002 PA 9/2021Divorce 10/2021 (per wh’s request) WH left to be with AP
Thoughtso (original poster new member #79633) posted at 1:30 AM on Tuesday, November 30th, 2021
Thank you i need to hear that.
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