Thumos ( member #69668) posted at 10:16 PM on Tuesday, September 28th, 2021
Keep us updated and pay it forward for newly betrayed spouses here.
"True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure. The greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character's essential nature."
BH (me): 50, WW: 49 Married: Feb. 1996 DDAY1: 12.20.16 DDAY2:
ShutterHappy ( member #64318) posted at 10:32 PM on Tuesday, September 28th, 2021
She also randomly went sky diving Saturday… something she never once said she wanted to do
I went through the same thing…
XWW: "I’m going to ski with friends "
Me: "you never skied in your life… ok, can I come? "
XWW: "no, you don’t know them"
Them turned you to be only the AP.
Me: BH
Divorced, remarried.
I plan on living forever. So far so good
WontBeFooledAgai ( member #72671) posted at 11:25 PM on Tuesday, September 28th, 2021
OP, your children are lucky in the sense that they at least have one parent who is grounded and has his head on his shoulders--too many kids don't have that in *either* of their parents. And your kids have this with you, despite the extreme crazy-making of your STBX-WW. You know what you need to do to protect them--get a fair settlement for them and you from your WW as soon as possible.
Meanwhile your STBX-WW is just awfully silly. And that is putting it kindly. She is a mother with small kids who had a great husband, and instead of realizing how lucky she was, she had to see herself as Miss Thang who has to step out to get to live her best life. All because of Journey of Self-Discovery or something. It is awfully hard to imagine Gym-Boy sticking around though, when he realizes what he will be getting--a woman who left her family. And even if Gym-Boy does stick around, she won't be sticking around herself, because the "passion" she is looking for won't stay around forever. And so when this happens and that relationship runs its course and she puts herself out there to meet someone else, she will be in for a rude awakening of just how tough dating will be for her. See, not too many quality men are going to be impressed by a woman who left her husband and kids for some meathead in the name of feminine empowerment. Good grief.
[This message edited by WontBeFooledAgai at 3:10 AM, Wednesday, September 29th]
