We are happily married. And we share our entire story when appropriate, if it will help someone or enhance the discussion.
We were both very broken people when we M. I’d been through horrible trauma and was cheated on and abused by my first H. I was almost 30, a single mom and drug addict. JM was 22, in the throes of PTSD from his military experience. We saw in each other a Savior, rescuer, healer. We were so blind. We couldn’t save each other. We chose different sins. You can call them actions or behaviors if the word “sin” bothers you. Regardless of the term we both betrayed and hurt each other many times.
I’m glad I got sober when I did. I wouldn’t have had the strength or ability to survive 2011 without a couple of sober years behind me.
Today, we are restored. Two redeemed, rebuilt people in a marriage on a firm Foundation. We each give 100%. We fail each other but amends are made promptly.
My prayer is that anyone reading this will find hope in some part of our story. We were as lost and screwed up as anyone could be. And now we are healed. And happy.
