We all know how t hi is ends, so I'll get right to it.
We met 21 years ago on my birthday, I'm not the type of guy who just hits on a girl but I had to. Couldnt let this pass. She had a bf so I figured that was that. She was my roommates gf cousin so she came by from time to time. We talked friendly although I would ask if she was with her bf. I hooked up with a girl I had been in the friend zone with for a year. About a week later she broke up with her bf and we started dating. Couple weeks go by and she finds out about the girl and is very upset. It was while she was with her bf and we were just friends. She stops talking to me for a week, then we have a talk and continue where we left off.
A month goes by and she had been staying at my house nearly 5nights a week. Well I find a notebook, not hidden right on my table, I didnt recognize it so it's my house I look through it to see. Well I find a letter written about how she cant decide between me and this other guy. I go right to her job, at a fast food restaurant, and confront her. She said it was a guy she was talking to but that was it.
I was in tears in the lobby, we decided then that it would be just us. That was the first time we said "I love you" a week later was the first time we had intercourse, this happened 3months from her breaking up with her bf.
So one thing about me is I'm a very empathetic person. I help everyone, literally have ran into a burning building, I shovel neighbors snow, take care of my elderly father, extremely honest too honest. I'm not stupid, not ugly and always make friends wherever I go.
About a month later a move to nice penthouse apartment that went with my job well as I'm moving in shes picking out all the things she was gonna do. Without a discussion that was it, she was moving in and it was us. So 4 years go by, lived in a few places we decide to have a kid. We haven't married, I'm the type who believes our love and commitment is enough. I'm very high on my ethics and morals, personal not religious. Our relationship was not normal but we liked.it that way. We transcended most fleeting romantic relationships that ended in marriage
To continue... 21years later we have 2 kids and a good.life. I work my butt off so my kids can have a parent around, my kids are both straight A's, A.P
kids. My wife has never got a liscence cause so im always running around. Taking kids to practice, school b4 this year, work, grocery store, errands for grandparents
Everything started going downhill 5 years ago when her mother died and then 2 years ago when her father got cancer and died a year ago. We have been social drinkers but since her dads diagnosis she started drinking more. We had a talk I told her I understand but she needs to limit her self and not overindulge. Went great for a year then she started drinking more again.
We were drinking together and have a stupid fight but this time she did the one thing we said we would never do, how mad we get. She says "I dont love you anymore, youre a bad dad"
Next day she says she was drunk and has no idea, she was mad and knew that was the only thing that would upset me, since I was being too calm. Another month goes by and we have a repeat of the same night, I should say my wife has been known to throw her fist when she talks and drunk. But I'm 6' 1" and used to box so nothing she does hurts. Again same story next day. I'm known for my restraint and patience.
Things are not good now shes drinking everyday and lying about it. I talk to her sisters and bestfriend to tell them not to drink with her and if she asks to get liquor, dont. Her bestfriend says her son seen her drunk walking past their house going to liquor store
I confront her, she denies. I tell her I know she lying I've known her for 21years and I have a witness.
I tell her we dont lie and I've seem your lies lately and it reminds me of a time 3 years in where I called.up some physic hotline and she was mad about the bill. I told her I thought she was cheating.i wasnt happy, she wasnt. I thought about ending it but I thought how could I do that to a girl who loves me so much. I had no proof just my instincts so I never confronted her. The drinking was the same excuses
Finally I get it out of her, that the week she went MIA after finding out about the girl she hooked up with the guy and they had sex after a week and she had been talking with him for over a month. Also after about 9mnths she was with a guy from work, only kissing, and at about 3 years there was another guy she kissed a couple times. After a month I find out that I was right when I called the physic.
I was selfish one night and wanted sex, I couldnt do it unless I was drunk. She drank too, we got in an argument over a comment I left on YouTube saying the girl looked pretty or something benign like that. We argue over it, this time I end up with a fat purple lip, swollen check and scratches everywhere. Not one finger on her may I say in 21 years not one finger
Now 4months since D-Day. She will do anything, she is very remorseful. Says it was just in the first 3 years and what she told.me is it. Nothing more. She has taken advantage that I give everyone the benefit of doubt. But the unknown is worse than what I do know