Our 16 and 11 year olds will be going back to school like most others with a COVID schedule that upturns any easy notion of a simple custody schedule. I work, BW is at home and she told me to make a new schedule now that the school board has decided on a 2 day in person and 3 day virtual schedule, with the students divided into cohort a and b; a is in person Mon and Tues, all are virtual Wed, and cohort B is in person Thurs and Fri. We do not know yet which cohort they are in.
So brilliant me makes three schedules (She asked for 2, one for a and one for b). Yet I thought I knew better and made a 3rd choice that reflected an option that had the kids switching houses every week to minimize their moving around. Then to cap it all off I sent her an email that the plans were done and I recommended the 3rd option and wanted her feedback.
My expressing my recommendation I made it seem as though I had already decided and took listens from her and that she didn’t have a say in the matter and we never were even able to discuss any possible solutions, because I started defending and justifying.
What should I do to create a plan that works for her and the kids? I can’t be there to be the stay at home parent because of my work. My work will let me telecommute occasionally, like taking every Wednesday to be at home with the kids But I can’t be with them all the time, so it has to be a split custody schedule.
I am at fault here and will conceded and adjust, I just have no idea how to make this plan now. What should it look like given the all the circumstances and that of course I am the cheating lying abuser?
I am so lost after today and appreciate any thoughts anyone has, even if it is to tell me I am dead wrong...anything will be a new direction because the one i am on is not right.
