Not sure what made me think of this 2 and a half years later, but I thought I'd pop in and drop a note.
I'm over 4 years out from DDay. No thoughts of any of that stuff anymore. I still deal with the ex-WS but it's ok and nothing from that time either hurts or comes up during our necessary conversations with the kids.
It's crazy how much has changed in this amount of time. How much I have changed, grown, and have come to love my life. Nothing in my life is the same from four years ago. Not a single thing, and truly I would not change any of my hard days for a single day of how I used to live.
I had what would have been the 15th wedding anniversary the other day and it was weird. It was weird because I was writing the date at about 10 pm at night and I had a funny thought that the day used to mean something. It popped in my head suddenly that that date used to be my wedding anniversary, but I wasn't even sure anymore. I had to double-check to make sure.
I guess I'm dropping by to say: I know those first days, weeks, and months are hard. They were some of the hardest things I have ever gone through. I had so much of myself wrapped up into this idea that I was a husband and a father. I couldn't see anything else. That first year, all the way up to the anniversary of DDay was so tough and impactful. I'm just now so thankful to be on the other side. Out from infidelity. New friends. Hanging out with family more. Smiling, laughing, and creating stories that just build my life up more and more.
Stay strong and I wish you all TheBest!
