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New Beginnings :
An update... 8 months after D-day

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 Coffeecloud (original poster member #68922) posted at 11:06 PM on Sunday, September 1st, 2019

This is the last Sunday I will be someone's wife. Our divorce will be final on Tuesday. I am having a bit of a stress eating day. I have cried more than usual in the past week. I feel nostalgic, nervous, unsure of facing life without a partner.

But I am in such a different place than right after D-day. I am (mostly) strong. I can laugh, have fun. I can clearly see that there is life after being cheated on.

That fateful moment I waited for actually happened- my spouse came crying and begging me back. He promised to quit his job, give me access to phone, quit facebook, quit drinking, anything. He just wanted me, and only me.

I said no. I told him that should have happened Dec 8th. Not in July! I told him I didnt want to be a jail warden and monitor him. It was as if he sensed I was getting over him, and finally came to his senses.

I still have many moments of sadness. But to all you who are suffering in the darkness after D-day, please know you will get through this. Time will ease the pain. You can't rush it.

BS 34
STBXH 37
LTA DDAY DEC 2018
M 14 YEARS

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 11:40 PM on Sunday, September 1st, 2019

"I told him I didnt want to be a jail warden and monitor him"

Good on you. Boundaries!! That was a huge step in getting strong again, by the way.

You are going to rock your new chapter. You sound so strong already.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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downunderchump ( member #70918) posted at 6:20 AM on Monday, September 2nd, 2019

Thank you Coffeecloud,

I’m also 8 months from d-day (5) but as I’ve been pick me dancing for the last 8 months & only just kicked him out I’m in the early grief cycle. It’s great to know it gets better.

Good on you for not agreeing to be marriage police. I did & it was such a waste of time & only made the situation worse.

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