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Good morning friends

Here is an Update. First of all I am still living the hard 180!

It’s working! WS has not tried to come over since I followed him the one day. He said “you think you are so smart” and I said, “ I’m focused”! The hard 180 has put me in a protective state of being. My emotions have calmed down although My wounds are still raw in places. Without him around I have been able to think more clearly and work on myself! My daughter came home from college for a week to see her brothers play and to help me clear out junk from the house! We stripped the walls down of pictures and decorations and went through closets and shoes and clothes and got stuff ready to donate! That felt so good. WS never came for the rest of his stuff that’s got to be resolved ASAP! We went for another 2 hour therapy session with MC and that was as helpful to reaffirm that he’s just beginning to come to terms with what he’s done. He apologized and finally admitted that the affairs were not my fault. That helped me to stop feeling responsible somehow. He’s homeless and staying with our friends I guess. That bothers me bc some of the friends he stays with my son plays with their kids! We see each other each night at our sons play! Awkward but I asked him

To sit next to me for our child’s benefit. It worked out ok but made me more emotional. Opening night was Thursday and my son wouldn’t come out of the dressing room after the show! He was hiding from his Dad and his grandmother. That made my WS wake up so much. I guess he assumed that everything would be the same between them after his affairs it my son is so angry still doesn’t want to talk to him and these are quotes from last night “ I miss playing with Daddy but not all the yelling and criticizing his does to us” “ he’s not a great Dad how can you be when you don’t tell the truth” “ I hope maybe you will get back together someday but Daddy would really have to change so much”! “He’s ridiculous and so fake, everyone thinks he’s so great”.

Practicing the hard 180 has helped my son and daughter to find peace and clarity. Our home feels like such a breath of fresh air not the angry tangled mess he created during his affairs! Finally our happiness matters! This is the best decision I’ve ever made! Thank you!

Keep up the strong work Mojojo you are doing excellent in your journey out of infidelity. You are in control. If your WH wants to join you, you control the process and you lay out the requirements for any possible R. It is so heartbreaking to read of your son’s emotional turmoil but it is a painful, predictable consequence of your WH’s infidelity.. Strength to you and your children. Keep up with the hard 180. Only contact with him is for issues concerning children and finances. Otherwise, No Contact means no new hurts. Keep on, keeping on!

Happy Memorial Day friends,

I’m updating my story again as I feel writing helps my heartbreak😕 I had to get tested for STD’s when I found out and everything and back normal but now I’m worried about HPV as my annual GYNECOLOGY visit is due and my doc Said I’m at a higher risk for cervical cancer due to his infidelity! That is so hard to think about has anyone experienced this before?

Yes, I have cervical cancer given to me by my ex. He had sex with a hooker, and then brought her diseases back to me. I have radioactive pellets in my vagina, and I've lost most of my cervix.

Also, does he care? Nope.

Well that really sucks that a person can give you a disease and not even give a crap! I suspect my WS won’t care either as he stated that we shouldn’t worry about “what if’s” and that HPV is common in women! He said he’s sorry but then in another text later on that same day he said “I got everything I deserve and more”! NOT sorry!

Family court was awful on Tuesday! His lawyer focused on me throwing him out and the fact that I changed the locks! The judge even asked me if I was angry about his philandering! Of course I am!!!! Should I be happy about it? I learned that The court doesn’t care about infidelity and they are not judging his morals. They were even going to try to get me to give him our son for the weekend! So I said “and take him where? He has no where to live! The lawyer shrugged her shoulders and said he must be sleeping somewhere so he has adequate arrangements. Sleeping somewhere? Oh yes that is part of why I’m on this forum! Sleeping somewhere isn’t good enough!

Really? First of all No! They were roasting me in court and then I said the magic words “this isn’t what my son wants!” “He doesn’t want to see or talk to his Dad!” “He isn’t comfortable with all these secret lives he’s living” As soon as that came out of my mouth they stopped pushing his agenda and appointed my son an attorney. We are adjourned until June 19th and the judge denied my order of protection! I didn’t have a lawyer but will never make that mistake again! Our legal system is seriously flawed! It doesn’t protect woman and children!

I am so happy to be ending this unfair and unfaithful relationship with my WS! We have been together 13 years but are not legally married! I’ve been researching my rights. I will probably get nothing at the end of this break up but getting free from his abuse and infidelity will be like crowning myself with jewels! Since he isn’t living in our home due to implementing the hard 180 I’ve been able to focus on my needs and thoughts! I’ve gained clarity and perspective outside of the infidelity triangle. I highly recommend no contact and hard boundary lines which protect your heart from the meat grinder that is infidelity! I read the hard 180 guidelines everyday!

Can I print these threads out for my journal ?

Can I print these threads out for my journal ?

Can I print these threads out for my journal ?

Can I print these threads out for my journal ?

Mojojo, I would suggest that you copy and paste the threads into your journal, if you're using the one on the site, and if not, you can copy and paste into a MSFT WORD (or similar) file and then print them off in one batch. I have never tried it, but I have a feeling that if you simply do a Control-P to print, your going to get absolutely everything on the page, headers, and all.