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Jimmy1962 ( member #59923) posted at 11:46 PM on Tuesday, February 20th, 2018
For me, on at least one occasion (he "can't remember" if it was more), my WH had sex with the AP and then purposely came home to get oral sex from me because the thought of it turned him on.
And thanks to him, I've not only seen her nude (pictures), but I have actually tasted her.
Breakaway
If my spouse did that to me on purpose I would be done.
My wife's affair was 20 years ago but I found 7 months ago. I vividly remember during sex one time that I was giving her oral and she smelled like rubber. I had a vasectomy and did not wear condoms. My wife's lover did wear condoms. Of course I knew nothing about the affair until recently. I remember back then when I said something about it, she started to jump up and take a bath. I said no and I kept going, but I did say several times that she smelled like rubber. UGH 
DDay 7-20-17 Found about 10 month physical affair that my wife had back in 97 & 98
I thought that I was going to die!
Trying to reconcile.
Infidelity is to marriage as Roundup is to plants.
mamabear22 ( member #62311) posted at 2:52 PM on Wednesday, February 21st, 2018
deephurt - yes same for me.
and how adamant he was when I questioned him and how he lied, lied, lied.
All that with the TT - makes for my crazy head.
Hoping I can get over this.
I think I will have to accept that I don't know all of the truth. Just not sure, how or If I can.
How have you got over this? do you trust him again?
Did he confess the affair to you or catch him in it?
Just wondering if this is possible to recover from.
Me - BS (42)
WH - 48
6 month emotional and PA
I think that was all, still TT
Married 21 years
DDay - August 2017
Reconciling - at least trying to.
Gablestitch ( member #60148) posted at 3:55 PM on Wednesday, February 21st, 2018
For me it was having sex in our bed with our 8 and 6 year old home and our baby in the room with them.
Me: BW Him: WH
Dday sometime August 2017 after returning to work from maternity leave with third kid.
Separated shortly after.
Divorced 2021 after he ignored every court date and document sent to him.
lostinoklahoma ( member #59646) posted at 7:10 PM on Wednesday, February 21st, 2018
This is a tough one, it kind of depends on what day it is. Right now I would have to say creating a fake FB account pretending to be our adult daughter and making it sound like she hated me but adored the AP and his 2 kids. Or maybe it's the fact that she had sex with him at our daughters house.
Me-BS-50
WW-45
5 PA (one with a female) since 2007. Sexting with about 15 guys since 2007.
1 DS 26, 1 DD 24
1 DGD born 5/22/17
Married 21 years
Together 27 years
Dday 5/30/17
tourdumarraige ( new member #62273) posted at 8:43 PM on Thursday, February 22nd, 2018
When I found out that she didn't use protection and never even asked AP if he had been tested. Makes my blood boil how she could just jeopardize my health, not to mention her own because" I don't like condoms" as she stated in one of her messages.
MidnightRun ( member #59434) posted at 1:18 AM on Friday, February 23rd, 2018
T/j
Lostinoklahoma,
Does your daughter know what took place in her home?
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 11:19 AM on Friday, February 23rd, 2018
Trying to make me believe her AP was my best friend.
Letting my children be around her AP's family and friends even though they were all raging alcoholics.
No protection, of course.
Driving drunk to meet up with him.
He is a police officer, you're supposed to trust them, right?
Buying lingerie for him and also wearing it for me.
Mine doesn't sound as bad as some of these, but it still cuts like a sharp knife.
Edited to add...
After finding out about her affair, she was trying to get me to have to pay so she could stay in our apartment. She had a new car, no job and I was supposed to support her.
[This message edited by Wool94 at 5:22 AM, February 23rd (Friday)]
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
tourdumarraige ( new member #62273) posted at 5:20 PM on Sunday, February 25th, 2018
I will add that what angers me as well is the person she hid from me. Where was this person, this whore that she became with someone else and not with me. Why was this other man deserving of a fuck doll, that she became this expressively sexual person with "the wife fucker", and not with me? I asked her this the other night...where did this person go? Why when I discovered everything, this person no longer exist? Maybe I want that. Maybe I would give you more of what you need if you would only talk to me. Or maybe I just don't turn her on that way. Either way, she needs to figure this out. I'm not the person with self esteem issues, and the need to flirt because she need validation.
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