Topic is Sleeping.
SadsadSammie (original poster member #48646) posted at 7:13 PM on Wednesday, October 12th, 2016
Has anybody read
I Love You But I Don't Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship?
by Mira Kirshenbaum (Author)
Me: BS 45
Him: WH 46
4 DDs: 20,18,15,15
Dday #1 9/11/03 1 yr. EA
Dday #2 10/03 discovery of 2-3 previous EAs
Dday #3 2010 Start of EA
9/28/2016 Discovered contact between Fucking WH and Fucking OW#1 Fucking lied to my face about it for years.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 2:15 AM on Friday, October 14th, 2016
I haven't read it, but the same author wrote "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay," and that is a great book.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
SadsadSammie (original poster member #48646) posted at 4:27 PM on Friday, October 14th, 2016
Some of the reviews she does some BS blaming. If it is a common theme I'd rather not read it. Otherwise, if the rest is good I can ignore those parts (after fuming for a bit 
).
I haven't read "Too Good to Leave..." Does that touch on infidelity?
Me: BS 45
Him: WH 46
4 DDs: 20,18,15,15
Dday #1 9/11/03 1 yr. EA
Dday #2 10/03 discovery of 2-3 previous EAs
Dday #3 2010 Start of EA
9/28/2016 Discovered contact between Fucking WH and Fucking OW#1 Fucking lied to my face about it for years.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 5:07 PM on Friday, October 14th, 2016
"Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" walks the reader through a bunch of situations that should give them pause as to whether or not to stay in a relationship. It's well written.
Regarding trust and rebuilding trust in a relationship, I read a book years ago titled "Tell Me No Lies," and it did touch on the responsibility that the lied-to *may* have in perpetuating the lying cycle. So if she is talking about a responsibility that a BS may have in helping rebuild trust, then I think it is appropriate.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
Topic is Sleeping.
