Quick rundown..I will read up on others post just capturing the karma bus catching up.
Ex & the new GF keep causing drama..they act like they are on cloud 9, however, reality is much crueler.
The kids came back from a week long visit and shared so many things, I felt so sad and didn't even feel glad they lived that way but in their mind they are so happy.
Just a few things that have happened since they moved into their "HOME" full of love.
Had to sell his car to pay for rent. Now they both split the car they have. HE didn't take kids to therapy OR school because no gas $ but he has enough to take them to work and around town for them.
The gf works@local convinience store (7-11/Circle k) like..and the food that is expired and needs to be tossed in garbage, she takes home and that is what they eat- ALOT. Literally dumpster diving to survive.
They are such losers that they haven't bought a single thing for the kids and they had to wear clothes that they had previously left behind that didn't fit and were summer & light. He didn't buy our son shoes so he had our DS wear HIS shoes and he didn't go work because he didn't have another pair of shoes.
For the holidays, no xmas gifts but they gave DD6- a box full of toys & junk they got from a trash dump. NOT even washed or cleaned up, Nothing wrong with previously loved stuff but not straight from the dump~~~ wash, disinfect it, clean it up before giving it. Our daughter is asthmatic and a box full of stuffed animals from the garbage prob not a good idea.
Apparently, he had to either drive kids to & from school for the 2 days or work- with no shoes and no $$ for gas- he didn't work. Wonder how they are going to pay rent with the reduction in income.
All the praise NewGF pays him about his education, work experience and all that crap, he can't get a job that pays more than minimum wage.
They live in poverty but still living it up, nothing towards kids needs or care.
He is the type to never do his income taxes, I can guarantee this year he will be filing. BUT he might not since he is in arrears for child support and believes he will have that taken out and come to me. HOW can he allow me to benefit from that!?
Consequences, If he and gf hadn't acted like the douchebag narc they are, this could have been so different. Hell I would have probably helped them set up their love nest but since I am the glue that holds them together..the drama is what they thrive, they can't avoid making drama.
Douchebag behavior, always threatening with contempt of court for visitation denial, switches weeks like underwear, never calls or makes contact with kids..but blames me for keeping kids away.
I agree to switching weeks(weds to Weds) for new years vs christmas, he gets his phone shut off due to non payment- ONLY texts. I had to show up with cops to drop off phone for kids to use to contact me. HE doesn't allow kids to contact me because they keep wanting to come home. He tries to end visit on Sunday- early so he can work on a full week. I remind him, he has a FULL week. He tries to use the school clothes & supplies kids need, I remind him, he wants 50-50 get used to it. His responsibility to provide.
to avoid even seeing him, I gave him extra time to drop kids off directly at school on Weds am..so he doesn't take kids to school and since noone has heard from kids for days, I had to show up with police for safety check and to bring kids home on Wednesday. He just wanted to see me and get some Negative attention-because that is attention anyway.
Both him & gf were cleaning /organizing garage, car parked in front. The kids were playing and in pjs. Both thought nothing wrong with not taking kids to school.
Shes a deadbeat parent as well, her mother in law & family raise her son- what can we expect.
I don't know but standards definitely are different because who likes living like that?