Foolsparadise (original poster new member #85183) posted at 5:23 PM on Friday, November 15th, 2024
Hi everyone
I constantly think about my WS and I have a question..
Can a man be in total love with you yet go out and have an affair?
Are men capable of that? Can they complete their responsibility at home yet go out and have an affair?
Life was a fool's paradise.
This0is0Fine ( member #72277) posted at 6:19 PM on Friday, November 15th, 2024
They can internally feel their definition of love, but it probably doesn't meet a wide variety of definitions for love.
They cannot complete their responsibility at home. One of those responsibilities is sexual exclusivity.
They can have a perfectly happy primary relationship, and still choose to cheat.
Love is not a measure of capacity for pain you are willing to endure for your partner.
Lost1313 ( new member #85442) posted at 7:48 PM on Friday, November 15th, 2024
My wife told me after being unfaithful to me for 15 years that she never stopped loving me. That statement made no sense to me yet it is not uncommon in affairs. One thing I learned from this is how differently my wife thought and acted inside the affair fog.Totally opposite of the woman I married.How can you love someone and then destroy them? Stay strong and take care of yourself because you can't control your spouse no matter how hard you try. As a side note my wife was normal and showed no signs of unhappiness for 13 of those years.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 8:17 PM on Friday, November 15th, 2024
All during his LTA WH told me he loved me. I believe him.
It took me years to realize it was himself he didn't love.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
