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ToddC ( member #9314) posted at 10:15 PM on Wednesday, February 28th, 2007

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savannah ( new member #13822) posted at 4:36 AM on Sunday, March 4th, 2007

This is so difficult for me.I caught my spouse having cyber sex via camera with another guy. Turns out he went to california on a pretend business trip to be with this guy. I also found out that he had invited his friend(another guy). to our house and this guy and him were more than friends I am hurt confused and angry. I feel my whole life was alie.We have 3 children together. I decided to divorce him .I cannot be married to a homosexual or bisexual.He doesnt think he did anything wrong! He walks around like nothin happened. He wont get out of the house My marriage was nver good but I always tried to keep us togther. Now I know why it couldnt worh out. you should know I got very ill from this . I am seeing a therapist. I feel weak, angry,sad strong hopeful at any given time during the day. What do I tell the children? has anyone been in this situation before beside Governer Mcreevey's wife? Thanks for letting me sound off.

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savannah ( new member #13822) posted at 4:36 AM on Sunday, March 4th, 2007

This is so difficult for me.I caught my spouse having cyber sex via camera with another guy. Turns out he went to california on a pretend business trip to be with this guy. I also found out that he had invited his friend(another guy). to our house and this guy and him were more than friends I am hurt confused and angry. I feel my whole life was alie.We have 3 children together. I decided to divorce him .I cannot be married to a homosexual or bisexual.He doesnt think he did anything wrong! He walks around like nothin happened. He wont get out of the house My marriage was nver good but I always tried to keep us togther. Now I know why it couldnt worh out. you should know I got very ill from this . I am seeing a therapist. I feel weak, angry,sad strong hopeful at any given time during the day. What do I tell the children? has anyone been in this situation before beside Governer Mcreevey's wife? Thanks for letting me sound off.

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suspiciousmind ( member #254) posted at 12:38 AM on Wednesday, March 7th, 2007

savannah,

Others need to see your post to help you and might miss it here, on the bottom of the notes portion.

Please copy it, and then paste it onto a new topic in this forum. Then others will respond

This is painful for you, and you need support whatever your decisions are. We also have a lot of people here who are savvy with financial, legal info, who can help you with that, should the time arise and you definitely decide to separate legally.

Welcome.

Sorry you have a reason to be here, but happy you found us since people here offer lots of help.

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needssomeone ( new member #13893) posted at 3:43 PM on Friday, March 9th, 2007

I just found out on Feb 12 my wife of 16 years is a lier and a cheat. She left the computer on and I saw the e-mails that went on forever. They were very painful to readand I can't get out of my mind. I have a hard time eating and can't sleep. Ican't believe she would do this to us or she felt this way. God I just can't focus.

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:48 PM on Friday, March 9th, 2007

needssomeone...

This thread is for informational puposes only.

Please start a new thread and you will get the support you're needing

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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livinginpain ( new member #13962) posted at 1:19 PM on Friday, March 16th, 2007

[This message edited by livinginpain at 6:33 PM, March 19th (Monday)]

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 1:53 PM on Friday, March 16th, 2007

livinginpain...

This thread is for informational purposes only.

Please start a new thread and I'm confident you'll get the support you're needing

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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Bubbles1 ( new member #14001) posted at 3:14 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2007

Its almost 1 yr since i got the most devesting news of my life, i hv been married for 29 years, and while i was away with my mother who was dieing with cancer,my husband was havin sex with sex workers for 1 year, i was only away for a total of 8 weeks, found out cos he had an STD, he still swears he used a condom, oh ya i believe him!! i am on anti depressants now, some days ok, some days really bad, i just cant get over the betrayl, i so glad to have found this site, i just feel so alone and hurt, he is doing everything possible to redeem himself while i no i am in a way lucky, it just dosent always take the pain away, my god how long will i feel like this, i am so fed up of it all, i am fed up with myself, i want it to be erased from my mind

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Bubbles1 ( new member #14001) posted at 3:49 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2007

Its almost 1 yr since i got the most devesting news of my life, i hv been married for 29 years, and while i was away with my mother who was dieing with cancer,my husband was havin sex with sex workers for 1 year, i was only away for a total of 8 weeks, found out cos he had an STD, he still swears he used a condom, oh ya i believe him!! i am on anti depressants now, some days ok, some days really bad, i just cant get over the betrayl, i so glad to have found this site, i just feel so alone and hurt, he is doing everything possible to redeem himself while i no i am in a way lucky, it just dosent always take the pain away, my god how long will i feel like this, i am so fed up of it all, i am fed up with myself, i want it to be erased from my mind

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:55 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2007

Bubbles...

Please start a new thread, this one is for information only.

DS

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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tess ( new member #10000) posted at 2:21 PM on Wednesday, March 21st, 2007

Hi,

Why is TannaB's "Anyone is Boston" message locked? I can't reply and that's where I live.

Thank you,

Gail

Tess

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 2:28 PM on Wednesday, March 21st, 2007

Again, this thread is for informational purposes only

Tess...you have a PM

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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bejeweled ( new member #14039) posted at 1:48 PM on Friday, March 23rd, 2007

I believe I have made a mistake by writhing the Ow a letter containing my feelings of betrayal and my anger. In response, she sent me recieved copies of e-mails sent to her from my H detailing his feelings for her, plans of trips they were to take. His feelings for her were painful to read. I have never myself heard the words he described to her about his love and desires. He told her she was his best friend, his only hope of happiness, wrote her a free versed poem that was beautiful, one my heart longs to have heard. We have been together for 18 years. His relationship with the Ow lasted about 1-1/2 years. I caught him on the phone to her one day in his office. Basically after that day he has said he does't want our relationship to end, he has begged for my forgiveness. My heart wants to stay and move past this. Can a man write deep feelings to the Ow one day, get busted with his relationship, and then within several months realize they were not true, as he says has happened or is this just because that is the smart thing to say to me? Did I make a mistake by writing a letter to the Ow? When my husband and I talk about the A he is open about it, but somewhere in the discussion he always points out that he had the A because I am judgemental and have an opinion about everything. And didn't feel needed. Through out the last several years I have pleaded with him to go and talk with someone with me about our problems. That never happened instead he opened up to another. (Ow) I am torn tattered and very confused. I look forward to any advice!

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 1:53 PM on Friday, March 23rd, 2007

Please post your story by starting a new thread.

This thread is for informational purposes only

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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