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Poetic Pain

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Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 11:33 PM on Thursday, August 6th, 2026

"Despair" was powerful, sir.

In all of my years here, the one thing that never ceases to amaze me is just how hard infidelity hits people.

Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022

"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown

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NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 12:21 AM on Friday, August 7th, 2026

NoThanksForTheMemories, will the novel be shared or will it stay secret. I like word smithing too!

If I'm lucky, it will be published (I have 3 other novels to my name already). Unfortunately, even if that does come to pass, I can't share the info here without breaking anonymity. The novel doesn't directly cover infidelity. Instead, the main character's fiance dies, and I drew on my heartbreak and sense of loss to write her experience.

WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.

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 31RS (original poster new member #85747) posted at 12:37 AM on Friday, August 7th, 2026

Unhinged, thank you! It wasn’t as hard to write because it was just the pain pouring out of me.

I know infidelity hits everyone hard but it’s absolutely devastating to some folks like me.

BH 61
WW 59
D-Day April 1993
Rugswept immediately!

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 31RS (original poster new member #85747) posted at 12:47 AM on Friday, August 7th, 2026

NoThanksForTheMemories,

I think that’s awesome and an excellent approach to your novel!

BH 61
WW 59
D-Day April 1993
Rugswept immediately!

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Asterisk ( member #86331) posted at 2:26 AM on Friday, August 7th, 2026

Hey everyone, some great and insightful poems being shared.

For a few years after D-day I would have terrible dreams of my wife’s affair partner and her having sex that was grandiose compared to her and I. I could not compete with my imagination. I didn’t think I’d ever delete him from our bed, but with time and a lot of soul searching, I did. However, I wrote this poem when I was in the thorned thicket. It was upon my re-reading it and analyzing it that I realized I was going to have to figure my way out of this! Needless to say, I’m far away from this point in time.

Dream’s Razor

Danger lies in sleeps false comfort
From shadowy corners it creeps
A thickening fog of memories
Two hands can’t push away

Tussling, rustling, tossing
As dream’s razor slides,
Cutting from the inside
Leaving scars, I hide

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 31RS (original poster new member #85747) posted at 2:43 AM on Friday, August 7th, 2026

Great poem Asterisk! I think a lot of us can understand perfectly!

BH 61
WW 59
D-Day April 1993
Rugswept immediately!

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