Notts2026 (original poster new member #87400) posted at 4:21 PM on Tuesday, May 26th, 2026
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[This message edited by Notts2026 at 4:49 AM, Wednesday, May 27th]
Icedover84 ( member #82901) posted at 9:22 PM on Tuesday, May 26th, 2026
I mean I know we should be giving advice to you as a betrayed, but I'm really just sad for him. He chose a partner who later told him that sex was no longer an option. You gave him a way out, but he does love you, and perhaps he thought he could keep it under control.
Unfortunately, hormones can lead someone to engage in risky behaviors because it's almost a dissociation. It's very easy to see a video ad for an OnlyFans model, go check her page, and end up subscribing for more content. I'm not saying I do that, but I can certainly understand it.
He did cheat, as having conversations in a sexual nature with someone other than your partner is a betrayal of trust. But perhaps you two shouldn't be together if you aren't ever going to be on the same page regarding intimacy. You may want to consider an open marriage with ground rules and communication. It could possibly lead to a greater relationship between the two of you, or it could crash and burn even faster. Either way, your situation is unsustainable.
