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I don't know how many people will recognize my screen name, maybe no one. I posted often probably 8 years ago now. I honestly don't know what made me think of this forum tonight. But was just reflecting on how far I've come from the days it seemed nearly impossible to go on. So to those at the beginning, it isn't impossible. It isn't hopeless. The work is hard. And it's painful. But there are good days ahead too even though it might feel very dark today. I hope to reconnect with those "old timers" who dragged me along amd called me out and helped me work toward a better me. Hugs to everyone out there hurting tonight.

Well, hello there, old friend. Nice to 'see' you again. Eight years is quite a while. I'd more or less quit SI when I got divorced a few years ago. This past June I logged on for a bit, got drawn in by a BH, and now I find myself trying to pass along all of the valuable lessons and wisdom I learned here, many years ago.

There aren't too many "old timers" around these days, but I'm quite certain people would remember you as well as I do.

You know, it makes me happy that most of the people posting when I was aren't around anymore. And it should give those newer to the forum hope. When I was at the beginning of this, it felt like it would define me and my marriage forever. Like it would be the only thing that mattered from here on out. More than a decade out and I can tell you what actually defines my marriage is resilience. And two stubborn people who refused to give up. It was so hard and honestly, some days are still hard. But not because of infidelity, but just because, shit, marriage is hard. Life is hard.

I don't know what even made me think of this forum yesterday. Maybe it was put in my heart because someone needed encouragement to keep going. Or maybe because I needed to work through some things. Who knows. But good to hear from you, Unhinged, glad you're still here imparting wisdom and support.