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OK here goes.

I guess tIt's save to say this all started en of year in 2021. I felt stuck in my job and decided I wanted to look into a new career path. I Knew this would be difficult as I would need to keep my full time job and have 3 young kids and a husband but was going to school in addition to all of this to eventually begin a new career. My husband was extremely supportive of the idea (I'd be making more money. Of course he would be) so I took on the challenge.

As schooling went on I became more and more exhausted .. my husband started to become less supportive.."you don't have time for me anymore"..

I explained to him I still loved him and promised things would get back to normal once the schooling was done..

Summer of 2022.. we had booked a camping weekend for my daughter's bday.. I had initially had that Friday off but after changing jobs has to work.. I told him to go ahead camping and I'd meet them there Saturday..

Things seemed off after that weekend..then out of the blue my husband said "i think we should break up"

I asked if there was someone else.. was laughed at as he said no..

I fought.. hard.. this is my family.. everything was so perfect prior to the schooling.. he then admits he kissed a girl while camping the night before I got there.. that he didn't wanna break up but he felt guilty.

I asked if that was all.. if it was all I'd move past it.. we could get through it.. but if I found out later there was more and he lied.. it would be a deal breaker.. promised no.. that's all

About 2 weeks later I came home things had been going great."I gotta tell you something before you find out from someone else"

FUCK..

He then tells me he had sex with this girl that same night..I was completely crushed

All the lies.. the cheating. We have been married 10 years and have 3 beautiful kids together.

We have decided to try and make it work and he SWEARS nothing else had ever happened .. and I truely DO want this to work.

We've done counseling together and apart .. I just find it soooo hard to trust him.. to trust myself cause I believed every single lie..

I wanna forgive.. I wanna move on.. I wanna forget the whole thing. It's just so hard!

Amymomof3

SI tends to quiet down on weekends - also suggest you open your thread in Just Found Out -

Only Betrayed can post there and you will get more exposure. In General - anyone can post and you may get some posts that are "off-putting." not so helpful

How is it your spouse goes camping with 3 kids and another female that he ends up banging?

Others will post with a very explicit assessment of your husband's choices.

Selfish choice, lack of character (of the good kind), lack of integrity, lack of respect for you and your kids. etc.

Long road ahead for you - and how you travel that is up to you -

Suggest you immediately visit your physician and get tested for everything under the Sun. and follow up as ordered by doc. Use condoms at least till you are sure he is clean. There are critters running around that can do damage unseen till years later.

[This message edited by Hippo16 at 7:09 PM, Friday, February 24th]

Thanks for the advice Hippo16!

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[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:34 PM, Friday, February 24th]