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coldshot101 (original poster member #56159) posted at 9:44 PM on Saturday, August 28th, 2021
My wife cheated on me 5 years ago. We got back together. One year later, she did it again with the same man, got pregnant, got an abortion. We got back together. Two nights ago, she walked out on me. She said that she brake the marriage, that it is over. I’ve suspected she might be seeing another person for the last 5 months. How could I be so stupid? You robbed me of 11 years of my life. Now I’m 57 and alone. This hurts more than when my first wife died 16 years ago. I feel so hopeless…
SI Staff ( Moderator #10) posted at 10:10 PM on Saturday, August 28th, 2021
Please use this thread: https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/topics/654570/she-walked-out-on-me/
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:12 PM on Saturday, August 28th, 2021
I’m sorry that your second wife turned out to be less than a "wife". She really was just someone with flaws and serious issues. She’s a serial cheater. She’s never going to change.
However you can change. You will heal. You will continue to be a good person. And you will move in one day and stop letting her issues and destructive behavior affect you.
Have you had any professional counseling? That could help you tremendously. It can help you heal slowly over time.
You have to understand she didn’t cheat b/c you weren’t a good guy — she cheated despite the fact you were a good guy. I think you will start to see her flaws in the light of day and realize you cannot 💕 love her enough to fix her. There is nothing you can do fo fix her. Period.
Best you can do is heal and move on. Go completely no contact and don’t engage with her about anything. Get a lawyer. Get away from her.
What did you do previously when she was cheating? How did you manage the aftermath
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
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